I would agree that if either is overly experienced and doesn't care, the attitude is slutty. I cannot deny good looks will attract my eye, but I dig to see what's beneath the wrapper (and by that, I mean her soul, not the other thing.).
A gal with little soul will still be eye pleasing, but she may bore me. What I find most contemptible, however, is a woman who believes that "feeling uncomfortable" gives her the right to lie. Which makes things worse for everyone in the end including her. And when the guy gets hurt, it's somehow never her fault, no matter what she does to him. I have little respect for such cowards, who usually go anon on this site. They aren't even honest with themselves.
You're falling into the same pitfall some men are falling into when it comes to them instantly judging anyone that claims to be feminist: you're generalizing an entire gender.
Most men know full well both genders care about looks, and that's okay. Most men want a woman that is clearly female, not overly masculine, that's all. Lots of men don't care if the girl has had lots of sexual partners, some might even prefer it.
And for the guys that don't agree with those three statements, they are probably fine with you doing whatever you want, they just won't seek you for a relationship, that's all.
and women are the most perfect creatures on this planet, right? do us all a favor and get over yourself. Yes, some guys are hypocrites but so are girls. I wonder, how many females shame men for lacking some kind physical attribute? you want to complain about a girl being called a slut? what about the guys who are shamed for being a virgin? you want to complain about guys not making their mind up in what they want? yet we both know its the same thing for women. its people like YOU who are apart of the problem. you come on here venting about a gender when you know both men AND women do the same idiotic crap. By doing this, you are just as stupid as the people you complain about. grow a brain.
Again with the feminist mumbo-jumbo... Men and women are not equal. Nature made us diferent so we can be eachother's halfs. One picks up where the other lacks. So no, these are absolutely not double standards.
1. Looks is fine, humans are visual. And not all guys will approach the same girl, i for one actualy don't approach girls i fid sexy right away because i want something long term.
2. You can be feminine and wear adult clothes. Just saying.
3. "A key that opens many locks is a good key; a locks that many keys can open is worthless"(it's not an acutal quote, but close enough). Women are suposed to not let every guy who comes upto them get with them, because then they'd be left with a lot of babies and no baby daddies.
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My absolute pet hate is that men get all upset if a woman turns them down for a date, and they think we're cruel just for saying no. Or they ask out a female friend, who has never shown any signs of interest, and if she says no she's 'broken his heart' or was 'leading him on'.
But they think nothing of dating a woman for a while, kissing her, saying sweet things, having sex with her, etc. and then dumping her - and we're not supposed to be upset about that, or we're 'crazy' or 'obsessed'.
It's so hypocritical and just shows the double standards that men have.
My pet hate is women being hypocrites by complaining about double standards. Like you for instance, women think it is ok to judge looks but whine when they are judged like so. Women expect men to maintain chilvarly but won't maintain ladylike behaviour. Women demand their preferences but criticize men for their preferences like wanting wanting a virgin or a certain looking girl. Women whine about slut shaming but they creep shame.
1. Yeah i hate bitch ass dudes, girls care about looks just as much as men do, Hate when some of my friends complain about girls rejecting them at parties, its so annoying lol, i hear the same shit everycweeknd
2. I don't know, I like really girly girls, and pretty women who are feminine. Dont expect them to watch rocky movies with me or go the shooting range etc if she does thats great! why not.
3. Everyone secretly loves sluts or wants to be one. i dont mind sluts at all, they are always extra social able, its your choice whether you approach or reciprocate. Then dudes complain about good girls too not giving it up, like bro just date sluts.
@sdgdfvdb Most girls want to act promiscuous, but dont because societal pressures etc. So yeah I think most girls have a "slut" on the inside, just takes the right guy to see that side, or to get her out...
I think when people say women care more about their looks then men they're not not talking about their actual looks but the time you take to get ready. A lot of girls don't care if their boyfriend think they need makeup a lot of them really think they need it. Some girls should not even have to wear makeup because they're naturally beautiful but some do. Men don't ever really have to worry about much we get up, take a shower, get dressed, and if you can style your hair that's it. Women on the other hand get up, take a shower, dry their hair, fix their hair, choose outfit about 2-3 times, get dressed, put on makeup, and then whatever else they need to do. Men done in 10-15 minutes maybe less Women 40 minutes to an 1hr. I don't know why your saying its a be mad thing for men to say that girls worry more about their looks it's a good thing we aren't complaining we are glad they don't take as long as us.
So many men insult our gender, making me mad for doing so! I'm not like the kind of men who are infamous for those sorts of things. #1: I've quite rarely felt women did nearly as much as men, and never more so. #2: I have preferences, but no needs. Everyone should be their own kind selves. #3: I rarely call a person a slut. Usually simply past actions done,(if any), of the sort. (If I say anything, that is. Usually I just roll my eyes and move onto another conversation.) Gender has nothing to do with it either way.
No-one defends these double standards. But it's not just guys that contribute to them.. a lot of girls feel the same way. A guy who is a player is a 'cool' guy...'we like bad boys"... but when the guy dumps the girl, he's a #@%%%%% all the way.
And girls are as quick as guys to call a girl who has been around bad names and not speak to her...
If you're referring to the online community and especially the "GAG" community, then yes, what you have pointed out is unquestionably right. But if you are referring to the "IN REAL LIFE" men, then... not so much because some men are more open minded and accepting than others. but yes, some men are straight up awful no matter what.
What you said applies to both genders. Only difference is average women can get laid tonight while average men are leftover. It sounds like you're complaining that the Don Juans and Casanovas, the top 5% of men, aren't settling for a 200 pound single mom.
My now ex boyfriend flipped out and called me a "hoe" because he found out I used to sext with this one guy before him & I were even dating. When we broke up he told me he was fucking his exes behind my back. Like what the fuck? Talk about being a hypocritical asshole.
Women tend to make mistakes by focusing on bigger things than focusing and concentrating on smaller things. If you want your man to love you, never aim higher on him, but the lowest and smallest. For example women wear make-up 24/7 so by the time we get in bed, the make-up is gone and will start to see another person you are. Try to stay as natural as possible and wear make up as a spice to show him that you are the best woman he can ever have. Giving that sense to a man makes him more responsible, loving, caring and so madly deeply in love with you. Stay original at most, be a best friend not a cage-controller. If you want to bring a man to settle down to your demands, be original just like the neck and the head. The neck is unrecognized part of the body but for the head to be, it is the neck.
I think the issue with the "women care only about looks" thing is really just calling out the hypocrisy of women. Men care a LOT about looks, we know this, and those of us that aren't completely cucked will actually admit it. Meanwhile women claim to care much more about other things while still really caring mostly about looks.
Both genders are guilty of this, but for some reason women are allowed to pretend that they aren't, and no one disagrees with them.
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So. I wrote this long elaborate explanation of how everything you said was wrong and how anyone with any level of experience would know this. Then I took another look at the start, realized you're talking about people on Gag and internet and not real life people and experience.
So uhh.. Yeah. People are all hypocrites here. Go figure.
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The first point is not hypocrisy. Attraction simply doesn't work the same way for women as it does for men. Men want hot girlfriends because they are visual. Women respond primarily to non-physical attributes because they aren't visual. When men want hot girlfriends, its because we need our girlfriends to be hot to turn us on. Women can get turned on by the guy's personality. They don't need him to be physically hot. The only reason women want hot boyfriends is to make their friends jealous and impress their family, which are petty reasons. But back to my point, no it isn't hypocrisy. They are simply two different things. Women are not men. Stop treating them like the same sex.
This take is bullshit to me all it did was generalize guys and put them in a category. How can you say if 5 girls are in a club or whatever and one is good looking 90% of the time she'll get the attention. You don't know that everybody has a preference & as for me I can't be after a woman who has four or five guys up her ass. I don't have time or care how good she looks.
@Kountry_King If you don't believe that statement, then you need to do a little research, and I do mean a little, there have been plenty of studies done that prove the simple fact that in a room full of men and women the good looking ones will be hit on a minimum of 50 % more if not 70 - 90% more often than what people would call an average looking person... and it works both ways too.
@Idonotgivearatsass idc about percentages everyone has a different way of thinking which is why I said it's bs. Like who Is getting asked this? More than likely the guys who will go after the hottest chick when they walk in. Everything isn't for everybody that's all I'm saying.
#1 - In my opinion women are MUCH more open to dating an unattractive guy, or guy "below" her. I always date out of my league physically because the rest of me is great.
#2 - I want my woman girly/feminine. If she's into high heels, purses, mani/pedis, and Hello Kitty... she's my kind of girl.
#3 - I don't bother to ask about the past because I simply don't want to know. And I also hope she doesn't... because I'm "experienced".
2 is not hypocrisy. Girls also don't want men being a pussy aka too feminine and it's not like guys want to be that either lol
3 is a societal hypocrisy not so much hypocrisy of men. Guys who complain about sluts are not the ones out sleeping with girl after girl. It's the guys who can't get girl after girl that are bothered by sluts. Talk to Aaron Rodriguez and see if he gives a damn about girls that sleep around.
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I would agree that if either is overly experienced and doesn't care, the attitude is slutty. I cannot deny good looks will attract my eye, but I dig to see what's beneath the wrapper (and by that, I mean her soul, not the other thing.).
A gal with little soul will still be eye pleasing, but she may bore me. What I find most contemptible, however, is a woman who believes that "feeling uncomfortable" gives her the right to lie. Which makes things worse for everyone in the end including her. And when the guy gets hurt, it's somehow never her fault, no matter what she does to him. I have little respect for such cowards, who usually go anon on this site. They aren't even honest with themselves.
You're falling into the same pitfall some men are falling into when it comes to them instantly judging anyone that claims to be feminist: you're generalizing an entire gender.
Most men know full well both genders care about looks, and that's okay.
Most men want a woman that is clearly female, not overly masculine, that's all.
Lots of men don't care if the girl has had lots of sexual partners, some might even prefer it.
And for the guys that don't agree with those three statements, they are probably fine with you doing whatever you want, they just won't seek you for a relationship, that's all.
and women are the most perfect creatures on this planet, right? do us all a favor and get over yourself. Yes, some guys are hypocrites but so are girls. I wonder, how many females shame men for lacking some kind physical attribute? you want to complain about a girl being called a slut? what about the guys who are shamed for being a virgin? you want to complain about guys not making their mind up in what they want? yet we both know its the same thing for women. its people like YOU who are apart of the problem. you come on here venting about a gender when you know both men AND women do the same idiotic crap. By doing this, you are just as stupid as the people you complain about. grow a brain.
Again with the feminist mumbo-jumbo... Men and women are not equal. Nature made us diferent so we can be eachother's halfs. One picks up where the other lacks. So no, these are absolutely not double standards.
1. Looks is fine, humans are visual. And not all guys will approach the same girl, i for one actualy don't approach girls i fid sexy right away because i want something long term.
2. You can be feminine and wear adult clothes. Just saying.
3. "A key that opens many locks is a good key; a locks that many keys can open is worthless"(it's not an acutal quote, but close enough). Women are suposed to not let every guy who comes upto them get with them, because then they'd be left with a lot of babies and no baby daddies.
My absolute pet hate is that men get all upset if a woman turns them down for a date, and they think we're cruel just for saying no. Or they ask out a female friend, who has never shown any signs of interest, and if she says no she's 'broken his heart' or was 'leading him on'.
But they think nothing of dating a woman for a while, kissing her, saying sweet things, having sex with her, etc. and then dumping her - and we're not supposed to be upset about that, or we're 'crazy' or 'obsessed'.
It's so hypocritical and just shows the double standards that men have.
My pet hate is women being hypocrites by complaining about double standards. Like you for instance, women think it is ok to judge looks but whine when they are judged like so. Women expect men to maintain chilvarly but won't maintain ladylike behaviour. Women demand their preferences but criticize men for their preferences like wanting wanting a virgin or a certain looking girl. Women whine about slut shaming but they creep shame.
1. Yeah i hate bitch ass dudes, girls care about looks just as much as men do, Hate when some of my friends complain about girls rejecting them at parties, its so annoying lol, i hear the same shit everycweeknd
2. I don't know, I like really girly girls, and pretty women who are feminine. Dont expect them to watch rocky movies with me or go the shooting range etc if she does thats great! why not.
3. Everyone secretly loves sluts or wants to be one. i dont mind sluts at all, they are always extra social able, its your choice whether you approach or reciprocate. Then dudes complain about good girls too not giving it up, like bro just date sluts.
everyone wants to be a slut? women too?
@sdgdfvdb Most girls want to act promiscuous, but dont because societal pressures etc.
So yeah I think most girls have a "slut" on the inside, just takes the right guy to see that side, or to get her out...
I think when people say women care more about their looks then men they're not not talking about their actual looks but the time you take to get ready. A lot of girls don't care if their boyfriend think they need makeup a lot of them really think they need it. Some girls should not even have to wear makeup because they're naturally beautiful but some do. Men don't ever really have to worry about much we get up, take a shower, get dressed, and if you can style your hair that's it. Women on the other hand get up, take a shower, dry their hair, fix their hair, choose outfit about 2-3 times, get dressed, put on makeup, and then whatever else they need to do. Men done in 10-15 minutes maybe less Women 40 minutes to an 1hr. I don't know why your saying its a be mad thing for men to say that girls worry more about their looks it's a good thing we aren't complaining we are glad they don't take as long as us.
So many men insult our gender, making me mad for doing so! I'm not like the kind of men who are infamous for those sorts of things.
#1: I've quite rarely felt women did nearly as much as men, and never more so.
#2: I have preferences, but no needs. Everyone should be their own kind selves.
#3: I rarely call a person a slut. Usually simply past actions done,(if any), of the sort. (If I say anything, that is. Usually I just roll my eyes and move onto another conversation.) Gender has nothing to do with it either way.
What a wonderful article. Now go back to the kitchen.
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Haha <3 you are the best man
Dude... you take my upvote and swallow it.
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I'm just a traditionalist, when I take my hoe to a date, kitchen is where it's at
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No-one defends these double standards. But it's not just guys that contribute to them.. a lot of girls feel the same way. A guy who is a player is a 'cool' guy...'we like bad boys"... but when the guy dumps the girl, he's a #@%%%%% all the way.
And girls are as quick as guys to call a girl who has been around bad names and not speak to her...
well, people who support them are defending and perpetuating them. they would not exist or subsist, without support.
If you're referring to the online community and especially the "GAG" community, then yes, what you have pointed out is unquestionably right. But if you are referring to the "IN REAL LIFE" men, then... not so much because some men are more open minded and accepting than others. but yes, some men are straight up awful no matter what.
What you said applies to both genders. Only difference is average women can get laid tonight while average men are leftover. It sounds like you're complaining that the Don Juans and Casanovas, the top 5% of men, aren't settling for a 200 pound single mom.
My now ex boyfriend flipped out and called me a "hoe" because he found out I used to sext with this one guy before him & I were even dating. When we broke up he told me he was fucking his exes behind my back.
Like what the fuck? Talk about being a hypocritical asshole.
What a beta male. 😐
@JCT666 indeed, he is 😌
Women tend to make mistakes by focusing on bigger things than focusing and concentrating on smaller things. If you want your man to love you, never aim higher on him, but the lowest and smallest. For example women wear make-up 24/7 so by the time we get in bed, the make-up is gone and will start to see another person you are. Try to stay as natural as possible and wear make up as a spice to show him that you are the best woman he can ever have. Giving that sense to a man makes him more responsible, loving, caring and so madly deeply in love with you. Stay original at most, be a best friend not a cage-controller. If you want to bring a man to settle down to your demands, be original just like the neck and the head. The neck is unrecognized part of the body but for the head to be, it is the neck.
I think the issue with the "women care only about looks" thing is really just calling out the hypocrisy of women. Men care a LOT about looks, we know this, and those of us that aren't completely cucked will actually admit it. Meanwhile women claim to care much more about other things while still really caring mostly about looks.
Both genders are guilty of this, but for some reason women are allowed to pretend that they aren't, and no one disagrees with them.
So. I wrote this long elaborate explanation of how everything you said was wrong and how anyone with any level of experience would know this.
Then I took another look at the start, realized you're talking about people on Gag and internet and not real life people and experience.
So uhh.. Yeah. People are all hypocrites here. Go figure.
The first point is not hypocrisy. Attraction simply doesn't work the same way for women as it does for men. Men want hot girlfriends because they are visual. Women respond primarily to non-physical attributes because they aren't visual. When men want hot girlfriends, its because we need our girlfriends to be hot to turn us on. Women can get turned on by the guy's personality. They don't need him to be physically hot. The only reason women want hot boyfriends is to make their friends jealous and impress their family, which are petty reasons. But back to my point, no it isn't hypocrisy. They are simply two different things. Women are not men. Stop treating them like the same sex.
This take is bullshit to me all it did was generalize guys and put them in a category. How can you say if 5 girls are in a club or whatever and one is good looking 90% of the time she'll get the attention. You don't know that everybody has a preference & as for me I can't be after a woman who has four or five guys up her ass. I don't have time or care how good she looks.
@Kountry_King
If you don't believe that statement, then you need to do a little research, and I do mean a little, there have been plenty of studies done that prove the simple fact that in a room full of men and women the good looking ones will be hit on a minimum of 50 % more if not 70 - 90% more often than what people would call an average looking person... and it works both ways too.
@Idonotgivearatsass idc about percentages everyone has a different way of thinking which is why I said it's bs. Like who Is getting asked this? More than likely the guys who will go after the hottest chick when they walk in. Everything isn't for everybody that's all I'm saying.
#1 - In my opinion women are MUCH more open to dating an unattractive guy, or guy "below" her. I always date out of my league physically because the rest of me is great.
#2 - I want my woman girly/feminine. If she's into high heels, purses, mani/pedis, and Hello Kitty... she's my kind of girl.
#3 - I don't bother to ask about the past because I simply don't want to know. And I also hope she doesn't... because I'm "experienced".
1 is certainly hypocrisy.
2 is not hypocrisy. Girls also don't want men being a pussy aka too feminine and it's not like guys want to be that either lol
3 is a societal hypocrisy not so much hypocrisy of men. Guys who complain about sluts are not the ones out sleeping with girl after girl. It's the guys who can't get girl after girl that are bothered by sluts. Talk to Aaron Rodriguez and see if he gives a damn about girls that sleep around.