Most women know what love means to them. Most guys have an idea of what love is too, but what guys think and what women think about love isn't always the same.
So what are guys thinking? What's going on in their heads? Really, what's the big deal about love? Talk about a Pandora's Box, I don't have near the room to touch that. But the one thing I can tell you is that guys think about love, but it just may not be the same way women think about it.
I've heard from some of my female friends that women think about love from the moment they meet a guy. I've heard that sometimes women fall completely in love only to later learn to like the guy they love. I've had women tell me that guys have to learn to love the women they like. That's confusing. So where does a woman start?
Let's start with what happens when a guy first meets a girl. I know, a lot of women are going to read this and roll their eyes while they think, "I know what a guy thinks the first time he meets me." Yes, guys check out women's bodies. I'd be lying if I said otherwise, but I'd also be lying if I said that a lot of women don't play to that fact. Have you seen the outfits some women wear when they go out? It's sorta like a game. Wait a minute, did someone say game? Well, like any game, the more you know about the rules, the better you can play. Trouble is in this game there aren't any set rules, everyone kinda makes them up as they go a long.
But just because most everyone has a different set of rules doesn't mean there aren't some things women can do to help things along. For instance, like I said, guys check women out. They look at them and, yes, some guys even let their minds wander. Women can't let this bother them, it's going to happen. Accept it and move on.
But there are things women can do to make the first conversation go longer than a few minutes, perhaps turning into a date or more:
- First, realize if the guy came up and talked to you, you probably aren't the first women he has approached and talked to but coming over wasn't easy. Guys are intimidated by women. It takes courage to get them into a conversation, so if he has come over, be flattered. He chose you.
- Next, unless you're a game player, either talk to the guy or ditch him. If you do ditch him, remember there are nice ways to go about it like offering a, "Thanks, but no thanks." An "I'm waiting for someone." Or even a "Thanks for saying hi, but ____________ (insert your own line here)." There's no reason to be rude.
- Now, let's say that you decide to talk to the guy. This is going to make the guy happy. Let's say you've even decided that even though the guy has likely checked you out from head to toe (and maybe even undressed you in his head), you like something about him. Now what? It's all about keeping his interest. But remember you can't come on too strong and you don't want to be too coy. Too strong - you run him off. Too coy - he might throw in the towel.
- So all you have to do is make sure he is interested. Guys certainly like things when they're easy, but we can lose interest. Make things a little intriguing and the guy will likely want more. For instance, say you meet a guy and hit it off. You're interested and would like to see him again. Ask him for him for his phone number and call or text him the next day. Ask him to call you later. You show him you're a little aggressive, but still want him to make the first big move. It's all about encouragement.
"Too strong - you run him off. Too coy - he might throw in the towel."
The bottom line is to remember that the game has no rules. Remember that guys are thinking too and like it when their efforts are met with some interest. Keep it interesting, keep it fun, be patient and give things a chance to get started. You might just be surprised. You might have a good time!