Guys, listen up! If you are interested and like a woman, know that you don't nor should you buy her gifts. Don't spend a dime inviting that woman to a fine restaurant to eat dinner, shopping buying her clothes, shoes and jewelry etc. I don't care how gorgeous that woman is, she doesn't deserve anything from you until she is officially your woman and off the market.
Girl, He Is Such A Sweet Sucka!
Many guys buy women items, give them money, pay their phone bill in hopes to fall under good graces to get access to the vagina. I'm here to tell you, you won't be getting no where near that woman's vagina for sex. That woman will give you hugs and maybe a kiss, but no kitty. You see that woman doesn't respect you; She knows what you are truly after; and she just goes along for the ride, milking you in the process for gifts, trips and money; While she laughs behind your back talking to her friend how desperate of a clown you are.
What's Wrong? It's Been A Hour, And No Reply.
Hardly anyone has their phone out of reach, if not, it's always in their hand or pocket. Believe me bro, She received your text right when you sended and heard the notification beep or vibration. The reason She didn't text you back within a reasonable time period was because She was busy sexting Josh, trying to get him off. Giving Josh a prelude on what He is about to get a taste of really soon.
You see, the dress and shoes you brought her, so that she can look good for you when you plan to take her out, but She instead canceled, claiming She had a "Headache" or was too tired from work was B.S. Josh was on her mind the whole time. And right after a nice night out of enjoyment, Josh will be the one to take off that dress you spend your money on. So remember, when you ask her why the long wait for a text reply, and She says, She was "Busy" know that she is telling the truth. She was just busy with another man, and not that B.S. lie that she will throw at you that, She was feeding the cat.
Silly Rabbit. He Really Thought He Had A Chance.
Ok, so now months and months have gone by and hundreds of Dollars spent on a woman that is still on the market. And you finally mustard the courage to tell her you like her, and desire to take things further;
But She drops a bombshell that you are nothing more than a sweet beloved friend that any woman will be so lucky to have you except her.
Hence, that woman will only see you as a stress reliever to vent all her problems and drama that's going on in her life. Because She knows you are a great simp, that's willing to lend a ear to her B.S. at a drop of dime.
Conclusion:
When you meet a woman that you are interested in, that woman only deserves your honestly, what are your beliefs and values and vice versa to see if you both are compatiable. A nice walk around the park talking to each other should be enough. No need to spent money on gifts and expensive dates on a woman that isn't officially yours.
Once She become your woman than you can spend money on gifts, trips and vacations etc.
I wish more guys of my generation saw this correctly. What needs to happen is men need to not put forth more effort and give her more attention than what she gives him. He needs to make her feel like she is actually the lucky one to date him, not vice versa. For whatever reason, men seem to feel so lucky whenever a woman agrees to go on a date with him, that he's then so willing to buy her gifts, pay for dinner, cater to her every expectation, plus more. If a girl goes on a date with three men who kept paying for her dinner, and then has a date with a fourth guy, she's going to expect the same treatment from him. You can see how it warps the female ego and makes her believe that she is a goddess among peasant men, and I think this is why women in general tend to have such high-standards rather than being more realistic about themselves. I've seen and met plenty of girls who are barely a 5/10 trying to go for 10/10 Calvin Klein underwear models, no doubt because a lot of men are so desperate that they basically worship women, making them feel at least 8/10 when they actually aren't.
While I don't mind going out to eat on a date, my rule is that if a girl doesn't pay for at least ONE of three first dates, then she doesn't get anymore dates with me. A few of my friends do this as well and they've told us about how some women eventually contacted them asking what had happened, why she stopped hearing from him, so it does work. Men could easily put an end to the entitlement BS if they just worked together rather than let women control how dating works.
Honestly I've never met a guy who bought woman shit all or paid her bills without them being official other than sugar daddy stories. Lol. But yeah don't try to buy affection from anyone.
Trust me it doesn't work, bought a girl baby shower presents hoping it would change her perception of me, she said thanks you didn't have to do that, but that was really nice of you. Took the stuff out with her (she may have even thrown it away, but at least I was happy I helped) come back in and I went to message her and I'd had been blocked so.. yeah
And not a voice from the women here and neither an upvote. Did they go all quiet all of a sudden? https://i.imgur.com/AUOSy7Y.jpg SWEET PONIES! The amount of gold diggers is even much higher than I expected! This is just unbelievable! This is actually too true! So true and sad! So long there will be male sponsors (they never cease to be) there will be gold diggers. You know that desperate doormat, who will fund her and allows himself to fund her.
"And right after a nice night out of enjoyment, Josh will be the one to take off that dress you spend your money on."
This right here is even a worse feel than that feel when i have no girlfriend. A new record was set!
So yeah! Don't be *THAT* guy! Seriously don't!
Just what have we turned into... 🤦 We can't keep our dicks in our pants (which is more or less okay actually) and we also can't keep our cash in our pockets.
To me, unless you're the gold digger sort of woman and you expect this type of behavior and you play those games, to me, it's a red flag if a guy is just constantly throwing money at you. Those types of guys tend to expect something from you like sex when they demand it or obedience specifically because they feel they are "paying for you," in the very literal sense. It's disgusting. Some of the most amazing dates I've had, have been free because it was about getting to know one another or how creative he or we were with coming up with the date and how it turned out. I love that. Anyone can just buy something or go to that one specific restaurant every other person goes to, but something creative is awesome, and I tend to respect that more.
Sorry but spend a bunch of money on something that they aren't even with is just being stupid. A guy friend of mine was into this girl and would pay for meals all the time when they hung out even though she never expressed any interest in him. If a girl wants to be with you she'll be with you.
I mean there are times when it's not the right time in our lives and we don't feel in the exactly right space for dating. I know what that's like but if I REALLY like someone I'll make an exception. It's very simple. People always have to overthink things. "Oh maybe she needs just to spend another year getting to know me..." No it's really not that complicated.
Thanks for liking my comment despite all the errors lmao.
Another guy friend of mine was friends/ casually seeing this girl but it was going NOWHERE. He felt used because he would take her out and pay for her meal and drinks and then she went go off flirting with other guys. One time she invited another guy friend to hang out at her place with them and he felt so awkward he went home. He's sure they hooked up. I told him to stop paying for her. Don't do a thing for her. As soon as he stopped she suddenly wanted to be his girlfriend. Of course that didn't last a very long time because she was bat shit crazy.
I COMPLETELY agree with this myTake... I've know that even at age 17, you should never be buying women anything unless you two are partners. As far as I can see, the woman I'm going out with means nothing to me, unless she proves herself to be worthy of the money. They say men should be the ones paying to show respect, but you show respect during the date by acting mature and civilized, not catering to her food and her time just because women think it's "gentlemanlike". By paying, you are instead showing the woman that you value her before she's had the time to value you, and she looses respect, and attraction (which is hard to get back once lost). Every guy should read this myTake, stopping themselves from putting women on pedestals, and saving their money. Women do not deserve your money unless proven otherwise.
"By paying, you are instead showing the woman that you value her before she's had the time to value you, and she looses respect, and attraction (which is hard to get back once lost")
I mean like if the couple makes it official that they are gonna be together and it's serious then sure it's nice to gift her and all that.
But if there just dating and getting to know eachother and see what opportunities they can have from eachother then he doesn't have to spend crazy money on her or anything like that. A genuine gift is nice it doesn't have to be expensive or special.
Buying anything for someone you don't know is literally madness... Don't be desperate and try to buy people into liking you. Be yourelf and see who says. Those who don't don't see you seriously and you're better without them - friends or romantic relations.
Yes, women aren't machines that you put kindness coins (or literal coins) into until sex comes out. Not sure how this would come as a surprise to anyone. If you're stupid enough to spend lots of money on a woman who has shown no sexual/romantic interest in you in hopes that she'll sleep with you, I hate to say it but you deserve being friendzoned. You can't buy someone's love or sex (unless they're a prostitute or a sugar baby).
This is why I no longer date, men don't believe in being nice unless he's getting laid. Get a job b***hes and focus on career. If a man wants to lay with you then you make him pay, you call it prostitution, I call it business.
I don't believe in being nice to another man's whore. That's his job. Let him do it. And if he isn't doing his job, then go find somebody who will and go be their whore instead.
But unless you're MY whore, I'm not going to support your ass.
@Bananaman177 Then don't hit on the whore, if you want the services or the interest of the whore, you are a share holder, therefore it's your responsibility to maintain the whore too. Or just go find your own whore and leave the bitch alone.
That's precisely why a guy shouldn't buy a woman gifts, unless she is YOUR woman. Otherwise you're buying affection (which is manipulation), and you open yourself to being played like this.
100% agree. The amount of gold diggers out there is ridiculous. I have gotten to the point I only take women out on free dates until I know they are serious.
You can't buy someone's affection. But if you don't buy anything you are not likely to get someone's affection either. The trick is to find a woman who is interested in you, and then impress her with nice dates. Don't be the guy who is wasting his money on a woman that will never be interested in him no matter what he does.
Good take , she must EARN privileges first... otherwise you are just another needy simp... out of very many. Hence I advocate first dates especially be kept simple & low / no cost , this will weed out the users !
You know, I'm pro man. I'm thinking this take would be about gender equality and the hypocrisy of woman in the dating scene, guess I was wrong. But still, a nice take.
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