The Art of Dating

Gentlemen, this is not my perfect idea of a relationship. These are not things that I just sat around and thought of in a day. These are things that have torn apart my relationships, and ended opportunities because I did not realize them. So, to you all, here is my list of 6 things to keep the relationships you REALLY care about going strong.

Because you like this girl, right?

1. Never stop flirting with her.
No matter how long you have been dating, friends, or even married, you cant stop. Why? Because that's a part of why she likes you. You tried to get her, and now you have her. Keep her, by flirting with her even when you don't have to.

2. Oh, she doesn't want gifts?
Too bad. Yes she does, even if she doesn't know it. The trick here is matching "No price is too high" with "I'm not trying to buy you". How do you do this? Happy Birthday! How much did this cost?" STOP Don't tell her. It doesn't matter. You didn't buy it for the price, you bought it to make her happy. If she persists, then everything you have EVER bought is now $10. How much was this paper crane you made? $10. This movie you bought for us? $10. That Gold and Diamond laced dress? Obviously, it was $10. To put it short, even if she said she doesn't want a gift, you get her one. or you make one.

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3. Make a big deal about her events
I understand, it's not that you don't care. You just cant always think of her schedule. It's tough to remember every little thing she is up to. Solution, when you DO remember, go over the top with little details. Easiest way to do this? Get cards. Woman, for some reason, like to get hallmark cards. For extra credit, get one with nothing in it, and write your own card. For events that aren't card occasion, simply insist you go. clear some time, go to her [Hobby] recital and tell her how good she did.

4. Make her feel sexy
This one should be easy. Compliments, be erotic, make sure she knows you want her. WARNING, make scare off abstinent women, for obvious reasons. Regardless, makes sure she knows you like all of her.

5. Find something to do at home
Find hobbies. A relationship will only go so far with physicality. And dates get repetitive. Find something you can do together at home besides movies and making out. Games, art, music, anything. Find it, suggest it, test it, enjoy it.

5. Don't let her friends/family hate you
You talk with her alot right? You talk about everything right? Not about you. And trust me, she will find someone to talk about you to.
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You could always HOPE she doesn't talk to her best friend that hates you or her brother that thinks you just want to nail his sister, but its better to MAKE SURE you get positive feedback. NOTHING is worse than a relationship that ends from outside feedback. Its not even anyone's fault when it happens. But you can stop it by chilling with the brother a few times, talking to the parents every now and then, demanding that that best friend come with once to that special trip you were planning. The best way to think about it is, your not just dating this girl, your dating her life.

6. Get emotional
Eventually, any girl will want you to open up to them. This one killed my last relationship. Personally, I can't stand putting my real problems on other people. But keeping an emotional distance while in a relationship measured in years will make it crumble. By this time, the girl wants to know all of you. You have to let them in. Jumping in to a relationship all emotional is a good way to scare most women off, but showing emotion late in a relationship is the best way to keep them around.

All in all, relationships take work. As long as you stay attentive, and keep caring about her, you can keep things interesting and alive.
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What Girls Said 7

  • Great article! Just imagine how happy women would be if all men followed this advice!

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  • excellent article.. every guy should read this.

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  • just awesome <3

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  • @Breathe, clearly you don't know how to make a girl stay and feel special. I just got out of a relationship. It ended because we never actually did anything, he'd never open up to me and he and my parents hated each other. Now I'm not someone who wants expensive stuff, I'd be over the moon with a romantic walk and pinic. I got too the stage that I felt like I didn't even know him anymore and he and my parents don't speak the same language but also he never did put himself. Epic article thank you.

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  • All guys should read this! Great job!

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  • Wow. I was blown away! The title is perfect! Love the article. I like that in the beginning you talked about how its not a perfect relationship. Because no relationship is ever perfect or will be. Also it is a huge true fact that relationships do take work. A lot of work.

    1. This is probably my favorite tip. Mainly because it is the biggest reason people give up in relationship. People expect things to be easy and to just flow. I mean you love each other right? No its work.

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  • Awesome. Could this apply to girls dating girls too?

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What Guys Said 8

  • Great article. I wholeheartedly agree with #6. Far too many times, opening up in the beginning of a relationship or just the dating part, either totally scares them away, or you immediately end up in the friend-zone.

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  • if I was a girl, I will married you.

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  • very nice, thanks.

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  • really good article, good advice, so thanks

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  • these are very good dating tips, thanks

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  • What an awesome read, thanks dude.

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  • @Breathe whatever you say man

    @Ride I don't see why not

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  • horrible article

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    • I agree... I have seen this advice in abundance since the fist FHM or mens health were printed.

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