Remember actions speak louder than words! It can be easy for anyone to have a frown or scowl on their face at times especially when they are having a bad day. However, the problem is when a girl looks at a guy with a scowl or frown on her face he automatically thinks she has a poor attitude and decides to stay well away from her. This means it is very important to be aware of your facial expressions towards the guy you like. Give him a smile instead. This is a habit for many people. However, girls you should know that if you are doing this it sends the message to a guy that you are a closed type of person and do not want to talk to anyone. Sitting or standing with your arms folded will make it less likely for the guy you like to approach you. If you want the guy you like to approach you then take your ear phones out. If a guy likes a girl but sees she has ear phones in her ears he will think twice about making an approach because he feels that by approaching you that he will be hassling you. Yes it is good to hang out with your female friends but if you want the guy you like to approach you you may want to consider how a guy feels about approaching a girl that has to many of her friends around. The more female friends you have around at the time the more likely he will feel intimated at the thought of making an approach. So the best thing to do is have as few female friends around as possible if you want the guy you like to make an approach. Remember guys hate drama. They will be turned off you if you start drama, are mean or nasty or have a bad attitude in any way. If you treat a guy like this then you can't blame him for being turned off you. However, did you also know that guys are watching you to see how you treat everyone else around you to. The are looking to see if you help that elderly man or women get onto the bus or if you just ignore them, they are looking to see if you hold the door open for someone or if you let it slam in their face etc etc. So if you want to attract the guy you like you also need to be aware of your actions to other people to. Be careful you do not stereotype of generalize us or anyone else. We get sick of the "all mean are... and "all men are..." just as much are you women get sick of us guys doing it to you. Stereotyping and generalizing is a massive turn off. Most men do not find the duck face cute. For many men it is a turn off. We would much rather see your beautiful smile than the duck face.1. Facial Expressions
2. Sitting or Standing with Folded Arms
3. Having Ear Buds in Your Ears
4. Your Female Friends
5. Your Behavior
6. Stereotyping and Generalizing
7. The Duck Face
Good take! Very accurate
For the amount of friends they should have I think 3 is the perfect number if the guy is going up by himself. You can talk to the girl you like and the other girls can still talk to each other
Versus having 2 girls together and the other gets lonely and pulls for attention
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Interesting things to know!! Thanks!!! Nice read!!!
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. , Id rather walk fast, fold my arms, listen to music, look stern bc im thinking, talk to as many peope as I want -- just be myself, and do the approaching myself.
I Just don't think its healthy to put my life on hold to be approached.
I do agree for both women and men, the part about being aware of your action to other people. That always important but not just bc you're trying to attract someone. But bc it's the decent thing to do. if you do it just to be attractive they'll find out anyhow when they get to know you and realize you're a jerk:)
Oh and the duck face. absolutely annoyng:)I love your Take, I noticed it in someone's question/concern and I used to do this a lot but it never worked out for me. I wouldn't be clingy, desperate, annoying, insert all negative traits imaginable here (lol), and after exchanging numbers, after two texts, I'd be ghosted/rejected. It hurts so I don't do it anymore. I wouldn't go overboard with the texts either like they were novels, just genuine "how are you's" and when it was a good time to get together and poof, nada. :(
This is one of the best articles I have read about how a woman should act if she wants a guy to come up to her. The points were right on point and written in a intelligent yet simple enough way that I actually understood what you were trying to describe!! Thank you :)
I'm always smiling and I rarely have drama. Seriously I never fold my arms. Its like the guys I know who like me, their ego wants me walk up to them. I hate that. I even walk by myself. I'm a fast walker though because I get nervous by myself.
I agree with all you said, the most interesting part you had (completely true however, rinse this is the way I see it) is the part about being aware of your actions to other people to.
It's properly the most overlook part by many women.I've always wondered why guys at school don't really approach me, and never really thought about the earbuds thing. I guess it is closing myself off. Thanks for the advice!
On point all the way... i don't see why you added number 7 but the explanation wasn't off at all.. that shit is annoying.
So i just read the article and the othwr comments, so walking fast lets say through the halls sends what kind of message to guys that makes the girl unapproachable
I hate "The duck face", but even I knew about a few of those tips, I need to start to make some changes. Thank you!
Great Take. I hope many women read this, because it's all true.
this is a pretty good take. pretty much everything you said is spot on
Good article, a lot of girls have no idea that they need to play a role in the dating process as well. Guys don't just approach anyone,
I honestly can't find a problem in this take :)
Thanks, helpful :):)
1 thing women should know if they want to be approached by a man:
Be attractive.Usually for me is Hello. You had me at hello
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