Everyone should try dating someone of a different race, faith, or culture.

[Anonymous]

Everybody has a type, and the vast majority of us will end up dating several if not multiple people to varying degrees before meeting the person that we'd potentially spend the rest of our lives with. As times continue to change and mutual acceptance between different groups of people increases it is becoming increasingly common to see relationships develop between people who are of a different background from one another. Even in this day and age there are still many challenges that this brings, but at the same time dating outside your background can be a very rewarding experience that can teach us all several very important lessons.

You will become more accepting of others

This one is a given. To make any relationship work, you'll first have to accept the other person for who they are. For many people, accepting someone of a different background is fairly easy, but to be able to pursue romance with that specific someone can be a whole new step outside one's comfort zone.

You learn to not care so much about what other people think

Even though in modern times the vast majority of Western civilization is open and accepting of interracial relationships, there is still a vocal minority of people who still find it difficult to adjust to. Heads still turn, and in my personal experience I've even been spat at for holding hands with a dark skinned girl. Over time one learns to not let things like this get to them, at the end of the day only your opinion matters to you.

You broaden your horizons

Not everyone in the world is the from the same background as you. Opening yourself up to people of different backgrounds increases the amount of options you have, and in turn increases your chances of finding the right person.

You give yourself the opportunity to explore a new culture

Exploring and learning about a different culture is always a positive experience that is not only interesting, but makes you a better and more well rounded person in many ways.

You realize that at the end of day, love is all that matters

When you truly love someone, it's the individual that you fell in love with. Not what they own, not where they come from, not their skin color, but who they are and their raw personality.

[Anonymous]

No! People should date who they mesh well with. I'm so tired of this preoccupation people have with race, culture, religion, etc.

Nobody should intentionally date a person with a particular trait, JUST to experience that person. This can be done in one's everyday life just by not closing themselves off to people that are different from them. But you're actually suggesting a forced relationship like this? Come on, man. I really hope you haven't treated someone like this- as if they're some kind of novelty?

[lumos]

People shouldn't date someone of a different race just because they're of a different race, though. That would be stupid, While I do agree that interracial dating is a positive thing that nobody should feel ashamed of/judged for, it's really not like everyone HAS to date someone who's of a different race. I think you could have worded that better, since interracial dating shouldn't be forced onto other people (just like any other form of dating).

[DivaMonae]

I wouldn't necessarily say people should date people of a different race, faith, or culture though it wouldn't be bad if more people were open to it.

Some people just have a preference and want to stick to their roots and ther is nothing wrong with that. The only time when it becomes a bad thing is of someone was to actually turn you down because you are a specific race whether you're white, black, Asian, hispanic, Indian, etc or if they tunred you down becuase they think they are better than you and your racial background. We can't force people to date outside their tace becuase we all like what we like however it wouldn't be a bad thing.

As for faith for some people it goes with their culture and many people are very religious. Some people are accepting of their significant other having a different belief than them, but like I said some people are cultural and they just can't be satisfied in a relationship or life commitment to someone that different beliefs than them. Some people would expect their partner to change their beliefs and you just can't fight fire with fire. Not to mention once their parents get envolved it will really heat up. While some people have been convinced to change their religion but obviously they were aware that they had doffereent beliefs from the start and put that aside.

Now with different cultures that is actually a good one and I could name a million good things about discovering and understanding someone else's hitstory, racial background, adapting things from one another's cutlure, etc but some people just aren't open to it, stuck in their ways, possibly racist, or someone else is accepting of them to teach them or let them experience this with them.

Like I said it would be great if we could just get all of this racial stuff out in the open so we can eliminate it for good and all get along and find the person that's truly right for us, but we can't force it on people.

[ImagineRelease]

I'm giving this a word. "Diversi-fuking." Years ago it was said to learn of other cultures you travel the world. Now we're telling girls to learn about culture spread your legs and hope he uses a condom. what the hell kind of things are we trying to convey here?

Don't sleep with people you're not into isn't a bad rule, it's not racism and it's not prejudice. Having sex with someone you're not into doesn't help you learn their culture. It helps you learn their orgasm.

I had sex with a Russian girl a while back and I can honestly say I didn't learn one word of her language. She yelled my name in English quite fine.

[Jaoro]

But in the title he said "try dating" not fucking but yea I once fucked an cuban
/Puerto Rican and the only word I learned was "ohh papi" *dusts off shoulder* 😏

[ImagineRelease]

HAHAHA But why "try" dating if you're already certain you're not going to like it. For me the dream girl would look like snow white. With the dress! The creamy yellow white face, big eyes, bangs and short hair and a huge rack. So given the fact that if I'm with a girl I wouldn't want to keep it's just unfair for me to keep tapping that knowing as soon as anyone with any of those features can get me to drop her cold.

Seriously this is all just brainwashing the people welcome conflicts and problems instead of advancing by knowing what they want.

[GiveMeABreakPlz]

I'm chinese and I love dating outside of my race and culture. In fact, I couldn't picture myself with a chinese girl, something about it just seems weird to me, it's like I already know half of what about she's about. I wanna have someone that 'completes' the other half of me. All the girls I've dated were non Asians and I have no problems meshing with religious girls as long as they're not westboro baptist crazy. I can respect everything she does for her religion but the real obstacle would come with our childs. I wouldn't want my child to be grown up religious.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I don't believe any specific type of relationship should be pushed onto other people. Therefore, my only disagreement with you here is your wording that everyone "should" date someone different. I think people should have the freedom to date whomever they choose whether it's someone of the same background or someone of a different race, religion, culture, etc. There's nothing wrong with dating people who are similar to oneself and there's nothing wrong with dating people who are different either. It's a personal decision.

[BelleGirl21]

I married interaccially, and while it did broaden my horizons so to speak I don't recommend it. The cultural differences have been very hard to overcome and given the chance to do it again I wouldn't. My issues are primarily language based though so maybe if you both speak the same language it wouldn't be so hard.

[Thrifty]

I agree with @bellegirl21. I just read King 1 where it talked specifically not to interfaith marry and how Solomon pissed off God by marrying women who worshipped other gods and tore his kingdom away except for the tribe of Judah only because of his father David and so Jesus could be born from that bloodline.

I appreciate the 'myTake' about dating girls of other faiths as it can help you grow and I wouldn't mind being their friend but the risk of falling in love and marrying them is not worth the consequences so I am listening to God because I believe him and I am afraid of The Lord.

[Queen_naki5]

That statement in the bible is grossly misunderstood and used in defense for people to not marry interracially. Marrying someone of a separate religion is one thing, but even during biblical days, everyone was not the same race, it had nothing to do with race.

[Queen_naki5]

@Thrifty so come again with a better explanation becuase that's a horrible example.

[Anonymous]

According to the United States Census Bureau "White wife/Black husband marriages show twice the divorce rate of White wife/White husband couples by the 10th year of marriage." White wife initates the divorce almost always... Cheating and selfishness are the complaints. White women fail to realize that black males comes from a different culture with different values. most of the time the black male doesn't even marry, just has kids and moves on. That is a fact as well, google up about black babies being born to single moms and the percentage is 72% of the time vs a married mom... Black males dont riase their kids, they dont want to.

[CHARismatic110]

I don't care if you are stating so called facts, your answer is pretty offensive.

[Opinion Owner]

Its funny because people that think like you created those facts through their actions. Offensive or not, it is what IS happening. And they aren't so called facts. They are real collected by the government. Bury your head in the sand and it won't change a thing.

[Ab1997]

Actually , its not about black or white.. it depends upon individuals whether you wanna divorce, cheat.. etc!!! well "Anonymous" has given facts can't deny that but some black people are nice actually better than some white. #human_nature

[Opinion Owner]

I actually agree but you cannot overlook the cultural differences and values. It is huge but gets pushed aside because it is seen as racist. It really about values but that gets instilled early by family and neighbors, given that many grow up in homogenous areas it then ties to race.

[Starrk]

I have no idea why you're focusing only on the White wife/Black husband divorce rate, because that interracial marriage is not the one that is most likely to split up. A White women and a Asian man divorce rate are at 60%, beating out any White women and Non White man divorce rate by a fairly decent margin. White wife and Black husband divorce rate is at 50%. Surprisingly though White men and Black women are 44% more likely to stick together then a White man and White woman would.

Also another error in your comment was the ''White wife initiate the divorce always... Cheating and selfishness are the complaints''. It's not just a white women and black husband that faces that problem because all marriages faces that same problem. 70-75% of marriages are ended by the women (regardless of race), and the main complaint from the women was that the man treated them badly, either by abuse, cheating, or other various reasons. So its not a race thing.

[Opinion Owner]

I focused on it because it is the highest divorce rate and it is also common. I knwo about WM/BF being lowest but there are so few. I thought about putting a question put there to get peoples insights.

[Starrk]

White Wife and Black Husband are not the most common interracial marriages (they are the 2nd most common but not the first). Asian Wife and White Husband has that title of being the #1 most common.

The title of highest divorce rate among interracial couples... does not belong with White wife/Black husband like you stated. That title of highest divorce rate belongs to White Wife and Asian Husband, which have a 60% greater chance of divorce.

[Opinion Owner]

I said common, not most common. Imwill have to check on the highest divorce rate as it has been WW/BM for a while from what i have read. Regardless, it is very high.

[Queen_naki5]

I see more opinions then facts.

[Opinion Owner]

@queen_naki5 the information is there and more importantly, just look around when you are out.

www.politifact.com/.../

[Queen_naki5]

Good to know...

[hswhis]

Why do you need to date? How about you just start broadening your social circle and including people from all backgrounds? You don't need to date someone in order to love them. I love my friends. I just don't have sex with them.

[Anonymous]

I'm really tired of people pushing interracial dating on people. People should be able to date who they want. I'm also tired of people broadcasting people who date interracially as open minded. Ok so people who have a bf or gf of the same race are close minded and racist? And you shouldn't date someone because of their culture or race. That's ridiculous. No one should feel obligated to date someone just because they are different they should date someone because they like them

[HeartsBloodDupre]

Yep, actually I agree with Raven Symone, that it's pointless saying you're from a different race, when we're all from the same country! lol

[KillerTaco]

It's not that it's prejudiced. It shows that you only prefer one thing over the vast majority of other people out there. It's the same concept as only eating one thing for the rest of your life. It can be... very boring. After all if we didn't have open minded people who were open to change we wouldn't have the many resources and privileges we have today. So yes stepping outside of your own race to date is being open to something different. I do agree though that race shouldn't be a big deal. We're all human at the end of the day.

[cuteorange]

Exactly. They make people sound like their racists for dating their own ethnic background. Jewish people for instance tend to marry their own. People like to marry the same religion or ethnic background because it's easier in a lot of ways. Art imitates life though, I do see a lot more mixed race/faith marriages today than say 10 years ago.

[Opinion Owner]

@killertaco I guess you didn't get it.

[Red_Doctor]

Look you shouldn't date someone for their race alone. Just like you shouldn't date someone for their looks only. What he's/she's trying to say is don't let their be barriers to potential partners. If you're not attracted to black people cool no problem. but if you're basing that off the fact that they're black then you're doing yourself and them an injustice. "Political correctness" has made it so that anybody even talking about race becomes racist, which is retarded. We should be able to discuss these issues without the fear of being labeled.

[JuanLove]

Agree. I wasn't open to it. Out of pure fear. Then I met a perfect match on eharmony (not an ad) but he was Latino. I'm Black. I was like- no. "they" don't like "us". So I clicked by his profile for 2 weeks. While I chatted with fail after fail. Finally my 20 year old said mommie - just say hi. I did. We went through a whirlwind of emails. Then calls. A Few months later he flew out here. A year later he moved here. I've met his whole immediate family. Love them. It's the best relationship I've had. It's not *because * of his culture or race, but feel despite it and my pre conceived notions. So just be open to someone outside your race who yes----- you vibe with.

[WilliamWinslow]

First, everyone is different, or more precisely, everyone cannot be totally the same with any other one, so it is up to you to determine how is "different". Someone think different religious faith means different, someone think different political affiliation means it, maybe someone think different sport hobbies means different, maybe someone think different view on arts means different, etc. It is a totally personal affair to determine that scale.
Second, I am from East Asia, and White girls are my preference, because I love European-Israeli culture/Judeo-Christian faith. I may also date non-White girls with same opinions on culture, but I will never date any girl who have different views on faith or culture, even if she is a White.

[Phoenix98]

I've got no intention of purposely dating from people I have 0 attraction whats so ever, its not that I don't like them or anything I just have never been attracted to anything other then white women. If someday I am attracted to a more exotic women I'll be sure to explore that but until then I don't see the point.

[RestlessYouth_]

Though I greatly understand your thought, I'd hate to be used as someone's "experiment". I happen to mostly interracial date solely because most of the guys I meet and happen to mesh with aren't my race, not becauae they are of a different race or culture. I do believe everyone should be open to dating others

[BrunetteNYC]

Oh please, can we please stop with this brainwashing nonsense. This is the path to misery, and these couples don't last and are not happy. Black guys want white girls to treat them badly and take out their hate on - I've seen it over and over. White girls want black guys so they can feel evolved and benevolent and always act better than them. Get REAL.

[Slavanna]

Being from the same background facilitates communication. I don't think most people born west of Berlin are gonna find the post-Soviet humour that I grew up with as amusing as I do, for example. Opposites attract for a bit, but birds of a feather, at the end of the day, flock together for years. I think race is the least important factor here, differing faith and upbringing are a doozy to overcome.

[Debs_Uk]

I dated an Indian guy for nearly a year... I loved him for who he was. He told me I could not be in a proper relationship with him because of his culture... I never met his family. I am heartbroken and all because I can never 'fit in' to his way of life... actually mixed race/faith relationships can be incredibly difficult.

[FluffySheep]

I don't see the problem with interracial dating. I'm a white girl and I'm really attracted to hispanic men. Interfaith dating, I wouldn't recommend tbh, unless you're willing to compromise your beliefs. I fell in love with a guy who's religious views were like the polar opposite of mine.. it was very complicated.

[Hannah591]

I've always been open to other races but like you've said, people have their types. Most people go for their own race or assume other races wouldn't be interested in other races. No black or Asian guy has ever been interested in me whilst it's always white guys who are interested!

I liked your take though.

[Anonymous]

Different strokes for different folks. Not everyone is designed to accept change but obviously people can date who they want. I do think it's great to learn from new cultures and dating people of different color is great but it's not necessary. I think some here took your message as if you are force feeding them or telling them they are bigots if they don't.

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

People should date people they are attracted to and enjoy being around. That's it. Dating someone else because they are of a different race, religion, etc. is demeaning--it treats them like some*thing* to experience, not a person to be loved. Cultural tourism at its worst.