You know what's toxic? When girls complain to the nice guys about their relationship fails. (Page 2)
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THIS is toxic:
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Guys who say they are in the friend zone are just as bad as girls who date assholes. They just put up with having their emotional/physical needs not met, by someone who clearly shows they don't want a relationship. Then complain about it to everyone else.
Why can't i find a nice guy?
Why can't she see what's right in front of her?
Just over and over again.
She can't find a nice guy because all the nice guys are pretending to be her friends. Hows that?
Right?
It doesn't help when you tell a guy to just be himself instead of giving him something to work with._.
I don't mind when girls, talk about their relationships to me. If there's something I can do, even if its just listen, then I'm going to do it. Its a good thing that I'm okay with it because that gave me the perfect opportunity to tell her that I like her
She said, "I pity the fool who marries me"
I said, "What if that fool is me?"
How about you "nice guys" stopped chasing the girls that are so stupid they go for sadistic jerks and clearly not interested in you. The world is full of single girls.
Look around you, I'm pretty sure there are those "nice girls" that would be interested if you stopped chasing the hot stupid girls.
You mean that overweight, flat chested girl with the nose bleeds and the annoying snorting laugh over there?
She might be one of them but obviously not all shy single girls are like that. You just gotta stop demanding perfection in looks and maybe you can find someone who will genuinely like you and share same interests.
But if you want to chase that super attractive popular girl that is obviously out of your league, have fun spending your life alone in misery.
So true! My current bf is a shy nice guy, he always went for the mean, popular pretty girls in high school. Huh!
That's the problem with you "nice guys", you want the same thing as players do, you're just more patient and calculating about it. You're like "if i listen to enough bs and pretend i care enough maybe she'll give me some finally" NOT gonna happen!
Your comment about the difference between players and actual nice guys isn't right! They do not want the same thing at all! The TRUTH is that actual nice guys want to love and be loved! Players want to hump and dump! Try not to mix them up!
And yet most of you girls still go for the player even though the player and the nice guy do the same thing.
The number one thing to say when you're a 'nice guy' and stuck in the friend zone:
"Look. I really don't want to hear about your boyfriends, (insert name)."
It's not mean. It's not even rude. It's just letting her know you're not interested in being a relationship confidant.
If she's actually a friend and considerate of your feelings, she'll try to stop. And who knows? It might actually make her wake up and see you as a dateable option. I can testify to that.
Try saying that to young girl in highschool when she's literally tearing a Pacific Ocean... she'll take that as you being rude or inconsiderate and view you as just as bad as the guy who broke her heart.
Almost every guy in this situation knows this, they know that if they simply tell the girl "I don't really want to hear about what happened" or anything that could even indicate they don't care or that they think they are foolish for falling for him will make the girl view him as an asshole. Everyone is like this when they're at their worse of make a mistake because no one wants to be told they make a mistake or that they're wrong... but women are worse because most guys are ready to admit they fucked up but women will stay in denial and be like "It's because guys do this!" or "it's because guys do that" when guys are like "I fucked up, ok?".
And that my friend is why you're getting stuck in the friend zone. You are being overly-considerate of her irrationality and thus playing a role in its continuation.
To get out of the friend zone, you have to be a little selfish and force her to stop thinking of you as a shoulder to cry on. You can still be there for her, but you have to make it clear that her relationship problems aren't yours.
If your friendship isn't strong enough to survive that, you aren't actually close friends.
Being nice doesn't entitled you to a relationship. Being nice is the bare minimum that even the "bad boys" can pull it off as well.
Also, if you get tired of listening to her complaining, tell it to her face. If you are really a nice guy, i'm sure you find a nice way to do it.
The problem "nice guy" have is that they stick around a girl that is not interested in them, when they should have just move on immediately to the next girl.
When in this post did I say that being nice entitles me or anyone to a relationship, when?
I thought it was implied. If it wasn't, I apologized.
What I said is still true of course, being nice to a girl and expecting her to like you is hilarious to me. Beautiful girl have people being nice to her 24/7, including the so called "bad boys". That the bare minimum, my friend. Nothing special here.
You are not getting it.
"What I said is still true of course, being nice to a girl and expecting her to like you is hilarious to me. Beautiful girl have people being nice to her 24/7, including the so called "bad boys". That the bare minimum, my friend. Nothing special here. "
Yes this is 100% true, being nice is the bare minimum. The fact still remains that a majority of young women don't understand that at this age most guys will walk to the end of Pluto to sleep with them, and that includes faking nice - Fake nice guys are normally popular assholes, that only be nice to girls they find attractive. The REAL nice guys are the ones they always friendzone and then complain about how they can't find any real nice guys... that's what I'm pointing out which is 100% true. The friendzoned guys always have to hear their homegirl's story about how this next asshole broke her heart, and we want to say "STOP GOING FOR THEM, IT'S NOT GOOD. I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ANYMORE OF THIS" but it will only make them feel worse.
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Never say the N G words on GaG. You'll immediately get all sorts of memes, stories and insults thrown your way.
That said, afaik, girls complain about their relationships all the time. Sometimes they like to have a guy there to vent to. The trick is: if you feel used, tell her. Or leave.
You are never obligated to be friends with someone. If you can't handle being only friends with a girl, simply tell her you don't want to be friends. She can't help if she has no chemistry with you and she will continue to choose to date whoever she wants and no matter how much you do for her she will never be obligated to date you.
I totally agree! I hate it when men talk about their ex's and call them crazy nut jobs... all of their ex's happened to be crazy... okay, yeah, sure. you mean, you two stopped getting along and went your separate ways. bashing on an ex in NEVER attractive.
My last ex was a legitimate nutjob. Pathological liar, exploitative, making suicide threats for sympathy, persecution complex, the works.
The next girl you are getting involved with doesn't need to know that, just figure out a nice way to say it. "Turns out, we were not on the same page, and we ended up breaking up" Ex bashing just sounds like you made them crazy (although I understand that in this case she had actual mental disorders) Especially when you are with a new person, keep it about current things, don't put out too many details about the past.
A lot of girls date assholes because they are CONFIDENT and stand out from the crowd. Everyone pretends to be a nice guy but these people.
Please, for the love of God, become something UNIQUE and get yourself some confidence. You actually have to make an effort to get out of the friendzone, you know.
Lol "nice guys" aren't "perfect" ether... we all make mistakes so i think they need to stop acting like they behave good 24/7... no they don't lol nobody does, everyone does the same by complaining to others, guys even complain to girls they are friends with (IF they actually have any girls as friends because guys seem intent on only seeing girls for dating lol). Or they complain to some random girl they meet on the internet.
Man so many friendshipzone posts. I must admit, I hated it when my chick friends always complained to me about guys and the worst was when they said "i wish he were more like you". I never got that, I do now, but not then. It is toxic, women should have guy friends to confide to but when the guy confides in her (especially about his women problems) and she mentions you are good or all those other white lies, it does more harm than good.
It makes absolutely no sense for a girl to friend zone a nice guy then complain later how they can't find any nice guys because THEY FRIEND ZONED THEM!
This is an excellent article, bravo!
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Aaaaand you got two down votes by guess who? Yeah, girls.
@This_guy_here Hypocrites.
This is quite true lol but one reason that you could be in the "friendzone" might be because your our friends first and foremost. You didn't come into our world with the thought of dating. And not all the guys we date are bad boys.. they just had a different approach then perhaps our guy friends did. Dont hate the player hate the game
We put you in the friendzone because you are only our friends. Get over it seriously. You wouldn't date your sister would you? Its the same thing... there's no chemistry you can't help who you fall for
What if he finds you attractive?
"We put you in the friendzone because you are only our friends. Get over it seriously."
Not complaining about placed in the friendzone, sorry learn to read lol.
I know how to read, I skimmed through it. This is what you said at the end "Be with all the bad boys you want, but don't complain that you can't find nice guys when you've friendzoned all you know." You are basically complaining about nice guys being placed in the friendzone.
"Be with all the bad boys you want, but don't complain that you can't find nice guys when you've friendzoned all you know."
I'm not complaining about guys or me being in the friendzone, I'm saying that girls shouldn't say they can't find any nice guys after they've friendzoned all the genuine nice guys they know.
If he finds me attractive, great but if there isn't any chemistry.. there's nothing you can do. Some people just dont click but they make great friends HENCE THE FRIENDZONE. I just dont understand why guys have an issue with this. Find a new girl and move on. If you don't want to be her friend and be more then just stop talking to her and unlike most "nice guys" DON'T pretend to be her friend in hopes for something to happen.
Like these kind of posts are so stupid. And I love how most of these posts are targeted at women. GUYS DO THE SAME THING TOO. People need to learn to move on and accept the fact not everyone will return their feelings. I get it your pissed but holy shit spend that energy on finding another girl who actually gives a shit about you
I'm not trying to be rude or anything but you should really actually read the mytake.
I never stated I want a girlfriend or I'm even trying to date - It's just arrgivating hearing girls complain "Why can't I find all the nice guys?"or "Why is there no nice guys?" when they're most likely in their friendzone. And I don't even state I'm in this friendzone as I say "when you have your friendzoned guys" so no I'm not claiming that I'm one of the guys she should even date.
Sorry. I assumed something happened to you with a girl and you ranted it out on here because that's what it looks like..
Well what I'm going to say doesn't sound very fair or nice but when us girls say "why can't i find a nice guy?" when we have friendzoned the ones that care about us, it's because we meant "someone who is nice.. but also someone i'm romantically and sexually interested in." Guys we friendzone do not fit the bill and in our eyes make better friends than lovers. Sorry that's the truth, sorry if it sucks. Guys exactly the same way.
Yeah that's what the all think because they don't read the mytake.
Contrary to popular belief is that you don't have to be bitter or hurt to share your opinion on topics like this.
Like for guys, it's annoying to see the ones i know complain about not finding a wifey because all they meet are sluts, drinkers or girls who party all the time. And when they meet a nice girl they dont care because she doesn't have the phat ass or whatever and go back to the sluts and complain some more.
Girls and guys.. are exactly the same. Which is why we should all just get over it and let people do what they want
So because someone is nice to someone, they are entitled to date them? Plus that with reading how you are dissing a girl, I can understand why she wouldn't go out with you.
I wouldn't even want to go out with someone of that attitude.
Enough about "nice guys", please. You're not always that.
True.
Oh, you're under 18. Nvm.
Once you reach adulthood, this shiz will stop applying.
I hope so anyway.
Ehhh, it applies even more, if anything