Ok, so I've really liked this girl for a while now, and I always thought that there was something there for me too. Lately I've been sleeping in her bed with her (no sexual activity, just holding hands and cuddling) around twice to four times a week. So...I asked her to my college's formal and she said yes...however...I had a conversation with her today in which I divulged my feelings to her and she told me that she did like me, but that there was someone else that she has been talking to for a longer period of time who she also likes...she's going to his formal as well (two different ones, hard to explain). She also went on to say how she asked him months ago what to do if she got asked to the one I'm going to, and he said she was ALLOWED to go (they aren't dating by the way) and that she wouldn't go if she thought it would hurt him.
Now, I'm confused beyond belief. Does it make sense that she would have me sleeping in her bed with her as if we were dating and still be going after this guy (who apparently hates my guts because I'm taking her out that night)? Am I right to feel like an idiot? What should I do?
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Some girls like having that one guy friend that they can be lovey with be only see as a friend. That one guy that they know won't hurt them in the end. She may want you to be that guy. As for your second question, you do have that right to feel like an idiot, but at the same time feel a little bit hurt. The way I see it is that she should have let you know that she wanted that form you. As to what you should do...I'm not really sure on that one. You can try and talk to her about it.0