A good friend of mine (let's call her Stacy) had a friend from another country (let's call her Jane) visit her. The both of them were planning to go to the movies and I asked if I could join them. Stacy thought that was a good idea and also invited her boyfriend.
So now, it was me, Jane, Stacy and her boyfriend. Stacy jokingly said it was like a double date. The night ended up playing out sort of like a double date, but me and Jane were just teasing each other all the time. It didn't take long for me to realize that she likes it a lot to drive guys crazy with all the teasing and mixed signals. We would both take shots at each other and then laugh about it. It may sound weird, but it wasn't; it was a lot of fun!
After the movie, we went to get some food, where Stacy and her boyfriend told us they were quite tired and were about the go home. Me and Jane decided to go to a bar for a beer and I would drop Jane of at Stacy's place afterwards. Our time at the bar got dubbed our 'second date'. We had a good time, regardless of the fact that we only knew each other for a day or 2.
When I brought Jane back to Stacy's place, I told her I had a lot of fun, gave her a hug and said: 'We might get a third date someday!'.
Now that Jane went back to her country, Stacy texted me and said Jane was disappointed I didn't make a move! Stacy also said she had given me all the opportunity when I dropped Jane off. At the time, I hadn't the faintest idea Jane wanted me to make a move! I could tell Jane thought I was pretty cool, but that's about it.
Now, here is my question. Even if I had seen the signs, I would have had no clue how to make a move. Realize now that when I was saying goodbye to Jane at Stacy's, I had the opportunity to make a move (end of the 'date', Stacy wasn't around on purpose). Yet, I don't know what I should have done!
Should I have gone for a hug, then kiss her on the cheek, see how she takes it? I am at a loss here. What do you think?
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Whatever you feel is right... a hug and a kiss on the cheek seems good to me, although I'm the type of person who would just want a real kiss at that point. Is Jane gone yet? If not, ask her on another date and do it right. Otherwise, you can keep in touch somehow and then at least she'll know you wish you would have made a move.1