Hey guys, I'm just going to apologize in advance for this long story. I went on two dates with a guy a few months ago, and we got along really well. He left a Valentine's day gift and card on my car, and was messaging me on Facebook all the time. I decided to give him a thank you card for my valentine, and somewhere in the note I wrote "You are such an awesome friend." I had no idea that you shouldn't say that to a guy you're dating. Anyway, he stopped talking to me, and I assumed he had lost interest. A few weeks ago his friend told me that the card had hurt his feelings. I texted him to clear up the misunderstanding, and we have been on two dates since. Unfortunately, I found out that he smokes, drinks, and curses every other word. All three of these things are a MAJOR turn off for me, and I really don't think this relationship could ever work out. He is a really kind and friendly guy, and it would kill me to hurt his feelings again. Especially since I just told him that I am still interested in dating him. We are not officially dating or anything, so how should I go about "breaking up" with him? I really want to still be friends with him, I just don't want to waste my time on a romantic relationship. Thanks!
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Honestly, honesty is your best friend here. The fact that you wrote "friend" night have been a blessing in disguise. Right off the bat that showed you that instead of talking things out when he is bothered by something, he is more inclined to disappear and communication is key in any relationship. I would say talk to him and see if he'll change but ultimately you want someone who will change for the better for himself and not you. Because away from you he'll still do the same things, will hide it from
You and that will be a whole new can of worms. Tell him the truth and it will set you free. Sugar coat it and lie and it will never be truly resolved. (:0