Any advice/ tips on how I can become less one-sided towards the men I date?
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I assume you lack empathy for the males you are interested in?
Because of the trauma of my childhood I lacked extreme empathy with my fellow man.
But by seeking God, and coming to terms with my shortcomings, I have (slowly) begun to empathize with other people. This is key to understand, appreciating, and loving your fellow man, on a mutually human level.
Unfortunately many people go through life without this most basic of human connections to his or her fellow man.
It'll be a struggle. But it first starts with you coming out of your shell- and forcing yourself to stop thinking about what you want all of the time. (Assuming I am right about your question, which I might not be.)
I get disgusted with how selfish and demanding I am sometimes. Greedy, and stingy.
But that has to stop. You must at least become aware of it to be able to combat it. It's taken me almost two decades of difficult introspection for me to begin to understand that people are like me. They are not merely hurt- machines, who will one day cause me pain. They are people. Just like me. Even if they do hurt me.
But without this deep soul- knowledge (That many people Do take for granted) it is difficult, if not impossible to relate to your fellow man as anything but an object.
My first bit of advice is to see the Creator who made you, and will make you right.0