My boyfriend and I had plans he would pick me up 730/8pm to go to dinner. I didn't hear from him all day. 840 arrives no show, call, or text as im sitting there hungry, fully dressed with my makeup and hair done. I was furious and texted him jerk. He finally texts me 2 hrs later breaking up with me for calling him a jerk. He said he was helping his cousin With the car and had greasy hands and couldnt call. His cousin has done a lot for him so he owed him and it held him up plus he was chatting with family.
He said my calling him a jerk worries him anout how I would handle future events.
WTF? by the way I know him 5 months dating 2.
Oh I forgot, he was dressed and ready to go but he was so mad he let me linger the 2 hrs. He said he would have made it to my house by 9.
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You called him a jerk, so now he's going to act the role you gave him - doesn't seem so strange in that light?
Yes, lack of communication is a sign of not caring but really what happened was that you were not on his mind, so much fun he was having being greasy - HE FORGOT, else he would have gotten someone with no grease to phone or taken a wash break to phone. He's wanting more fun & less you in his life but won't come clean about it. Punishing you for 2 hrs is also BS, he wasn't ready, being extra bad now, using your temper against you. Total BS guy... but why? He's getting back at you in a very sand-bag way, things building up over time and bam he lets the bag fall on you when short tempered.
Now YOU are no saint, lowering yourself to his level... jerk... really? Such tools you might use in the future in front of his boss, on the children, at a family gathering? The hungry & ignored do get steamed but if we love the jerks, we do something more constructive & be as understanding as we'd love them to be when we screw up. If you're not going over there to pick him up with "I'm starving" but I'll wait for you to clean up, then get something to eat! If/when he shows up, something else fun to do can save the night.
would you rather run the gauntlet we call dating/shopping - ugh, not me0