Messed up first "date" by getting drunk...can I salvage it?

[Anonymous]

well I went out with my crush the other night...I'm not sure that it was actually a date but it was the first time he asked me to do something just the 2 of us. He was driving so wasn't drinking...I made up for that by drinking a lot of wine. Things went really well (well I think) until the wine hit me and I got a nose bleed which splattered all over his white t-shirt all over me...then I felt like he was grumpy with me and I kept asking him if he was, which he insisted he wasn't. Then he gave me lift home and which I can't really remember much of but I think I was a bit off with him and then when he pulled up outside my house I kept telling him I was REALLY into him (cringe)...

This may be beyond salvaging but what do ya think I should do apart from drinking less...

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+1 y

He text me to say I broke his toe also...

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+1 y

its not normal behaviour for me...don't normally drink wine apart from with meal..so that could be a factor. Spoke to him on phone and asked him did he just wanna leave things and he said he wants to wait until his toe heals a bit before deciding...

[Theguyoverthere]

I personally wouldn't unless I knew you had a really low tolerance. But if you're 25 or older you should honestly know what your tolerance is anyway. I doubt I'd give something like that another chance. It reminds me of the time I talked with a girl on the phone from online who sounded drunk both times I talked with her. She mentioned she found more alcohol on the second phone call which confirmed it and mixing in her slurring speech, I was just too turned off. So I can only imagine how that guy must feel.

[WesTheGuru]

Wow... That sounds like a nightmare of a first date. Did you at least give him a blowjob or something to make it up to him?

If he was on the fence before about you before, you probably pushed him to the wrong side with that night.

[Asker]

Nope nothing sexual happened...Yep its pretty disastrous all right. I don't expect to hear from him...

[WesTheGuru]

Yea I don't think you should expect to hear from him after that. Text him and apologize and say you'll make it up to him if you want to see him again in a romantic setting. One night doesn't always ruin their opinion of you, especially if you're good friends prior to it.

[Asker]

We were reasonably friendly, we went to college together for a year and have been out socially in a group a few times..discussed a lot of very personal things...there's a foundation there but not sure if its strong enough to survive this disaster

[WesTheGuru]

You broke his toe too? Ya... to make this up to him it's going to take ALOT, if it's even possible.

I'd suggest just let it go, but if he decides to pursue you, don't ignore that it happened. Make it up to him. I don't know how, but do something to show him you care, and that isn't normal (unless it is... then I don't know if there's much hope).

[Asker]

Na its not normal behaviour for me...don't normally drink wine apart from with meal..so that could be a factor. Spoke to him on phone and asked him did he just wanna leave things and he said he wants to wait until his toe heals a bit before deciding...

[WesTheGuru]

I'll talk from personal experience. I have had some pretty horrible dates, and experiences with women that were clearly their fault.

There were some instances where I just decided it wasn't worth it, but if she shows that she sincerely cares about fucking up, it goes a long way. I'm not talking about long text messages, I don't want that, I just would want to know that you are going to do something that shows you legitimately care, and that whatever happened would not happen again and was not a normal thing. If it was just one time, I can look past it, but this was a lot for one time.

That he even picked up your call, or called you is a good sign though.

[knotme]

If you have to ask that question, you might have a probem, because most people would just drink less; without having to ask

[knotme]

problem

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply obviously if we do go out again I will either not drink or drink a lot less but I kinda meant what can I do now to salvage any chance of getting a 2nd date...

[knotme]

i dont think that up to you. You can apolgize, and just tell him you were nervous and that's not how you usually drink; only if that's not a lie

[Asker]

Ye I'm not normally like that, wine's not usually my drink...like we've been out before together in a group so he knows I'm not always like that...oh well it'll be a lesson learned I guess

[knotme]

yes it has

[Sex_Panther]

This is beyond salvage. It requires too much to save to be worth the effort.

[Asker]

seriously?ok

[Anonymous]

In my opinion he will be able to forgive you if you apologize in a cute way and don't let it happen again. I hooe you're not an alcoholic and just drank too much cause you were nervous.

[kheserthorpe]

What happened to his toe?

[Asker]

I stood on it, in heels

[kheserthorpe]

If I liked you i would want to see you again. If I was lukewarm it might put me off.