Yesterday went on a date with a girl who was on the phone a lot of the time. It is not the first tine we have gone out. She did it the first tine as well. I have never really experienced this, I have thought that I was boring. Since there was one girl prior to this that kept her hands folded. I just haven't figured out how to be more interesting. I have traveled to different countries. I just can't seem to come across as interesting, and when it comes to dancing I tense up. I don't want to embarrass myself, and known as the one who can't dance on top of being boring (probably out there already).
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First, that girl being on her phone was VERY rude and it's NOT your fault that she chose not to engage in the conversation. You were on a date, you're there to get to know each other. It's not your job to keep the conversation going. You're not her babysitter, who has to keep her occupied til mommy and daddy get home. And, you're not a clown there for her amusment. Every question you asked her, she could have asked you the same one back, but she didn't. She could have inquried about your traveling to other countries, but she didn't. So, please don't take this personally and don't think you're boring. because, I'm sure your not. This date failure is on her, not you!
Second, that other girl who folded her hands was probably just nervous or didn't know what to do with her hands. But, I wouldn't put too much thought into why she did that. I'm sure that wasn't because you were boring her, people don't usually fold there hands when they're bored.
Third, this is the MOST important thing. Dating is about getting to know each other and seeing where things can go. So, with that in mind. The reason people go on dates in the first place is because they're interested in someone for some reason. Whether it be attraction, a instant connection or all the above. So, these ladies that you go out with. If you and these girls had ANYTHING between you, you would know it. Connection and chemistry are just there and people usually don't go on dates with out these things. So, it's not that you're "boring". It's just that you don't have anything between you to turn a dull topic into an interesting one. Or, like the dancing. A girl who's into you would take you on that dance floor and show you how to dance and make you feel good and comfortable about dancing. And, would show you that you don't have to be embarrassed about it. So, don't take these dating failures as something you did wrong. But, see it as some thing just wasn't suppose to be.0