Hello people. I know this is a lot of text, but pleeeease read.
I'm a 15 years old girl. And... I'm from Norway :) But i'm just thinking that i will never get a boyfriend beacause i'm fat, ugly and shy, especially around boys.. unfortunately. I am 5'5 and 144 lbs. I have such a round face (oval?), and i have these huge under eye bags i can't get rid of. :( When there are boys around me, i feel so big compared to them. I can admit that i have a beautiful and looong hair, but it's not a lot of volume in it and that highlights the ugly shape of my face and its ugliness. I'm fine with my body from the hips and up to my neck, but i have kinda small breasts. But my feet, they are so short and huge:(
I do have a little big butt... you know.. i workout ;) I don't have a so good personality (my opinion :)) I don't know what my friends think of my personality... I don't have a beautiful smile even if i have used braces. I'm a nail biter (unattractive). that was kinda it :) And also i'm going to tell you something else. Once my older brother (2 years older) brought his good friend home. and at once i saw him i fell in love. This happened like 3-4 years ago. I did actually talk to him. But at that time i was veeery ugly. i'm not that ugly now, but i'm still not beautiful. So, last year i we went to the same school. He used to say hi to me, but i was shy and didn't reply, i just smiled. everytime he was around i was suuuper duper shy. i didn't say a word. And after that year i went to a new school, because i moved to a another country. We have talked a little on facebook. but we don't have log convos there or something. just a hi now and then. he was really popular at the school we both went to, and all the girls flirted with him, and i was just a loner there. And he is so nice and gorgeous <3 i don't think he likes me though.. In public i feel like a lot of boys look at me, but i don't know. I have never had a boy friend (like... a friend). can someone give me advices?
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I think a lot of why you don't feel like you will get a boyfriend stems from your evident insecurities about yourself. Trust me unless you're a model with loads to spend on cosmetics and clothes then NO ONE ever looks perfect, we all have little things about ourselves we hate. It's just learning to overcome those and feeling confident as a whole, imperfections and all.
Firstly, let's target a few things you don't like about yourself. Yes, we shouldn't have to change ourselves to meet a guy, but we should feel confident enough to talk to them and feeling good and attractive is feeling confident. For your height you are at the top end of a healthy weight so if you want to feel sexier try losing a few pounds and see how it affects the areas you aren't so confident with. It's amazing how knocking off a bit of weight can change the shape of your face and legs etc. With heavy bags under your eyes try using a cosmetic concealer. I use new CID i-conceal, use it under your eyes...voila! No eye bags ;) Enhance and show off the features you love about yourself, get your hair done now and then and treat yourself to a manicure and get some tips on how to keep your nails healthy and clean..I hate my butt! haha I wish I had a great butt to show off in jeans sometimes, so treat yourself to a nice pair of jeans and learn to feel good about yourself. Breasts and feet, there aren't always magical solutions to change everything about ourselves, we're given what we're given and guys really won't notice the size of your feet so please don't run off with the notion that all these things are of great importance to a guy :)
In terms of guys, approach guys similar to yourself personality wise. Make conversation with guys in your class, relax, be yourself and be kind and that's a great way to start interacting with them :) That should boost your confidence enough to feel more at ease flirting if you like one in particular ;)
Good luck and be happy you're you! :)1