Met her when I was abroad (she lives abroad), she had a boyfriend for 3 years when I met her.
They had long distance relationship and they didn't see each other for 5 weeks at a time.
I didn't know she had a boyfriend, my friend was hitting on her friend and I was hitting on her.
I hit on her hard. I tried anything in my power to kiss her. She didn't let me, to be honest, she did let me dance close with her and kissing her neck and stuff like that.
Finally, she told me she has a boyfriend (which I suspected when I met her too).
I asked her questions about their relationship and I could sense it wasn't it ("do you love him?" -"well..." "Then you don't love him! Why are you still with him?")
I made a stupid bet with her that they will break up soon. In the beginning she didn't give me her number but eventually she agreed to give it to me.
I felt I got so attached to her, and really told her she is the girl of my dreams (I really meant that). I almost cried that night.
She says she couldn't get me out of her head and few days later (and here's the problematic part) she asked me out (while I was still abroad).
We went out, still no making out, but a lot of getting turned on and stuff.
We kept constant touch in WhatsApp.
Two months later they break up, she told me I was right.
Few months later we meet again, starting our love story, I love her more than anything in my life, and she says she loves me very much too. She says she always felt like she's the one less into the relationship, but now she doesn't feel that way.
I really think she's the girl of my dreams, perfect in any way, my heart beats just when I look at her. And I was what some may call a "player".
But I can't get rid of this feeling of "you gotta be careful" because of the way we met... Its hard for me to feel that with a girl I love this much... Its not a "pickup".
What if she meets someone else and goes along with him, I'll feel like hell.
The thing I'm scared of is she'll just fall in-love with someone else at the same time I feel like I wanna be with her forever.
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Hey :) How are you going?
I am reading your post while putting myself in your girls shoes. I don't suspect that she will cheat on you because you seem like a really nice guy who is showering her with attention and you love her. Many women cheat because of 3 reasons:
- Their men don't spend time with them.
- Their men don't make them feel beautiful
- Their men don't take the time to make a connection with them
Obviously you are doing all of the above and since your lady had a long distance relationship with her man in which they didn't see each other for 5 weeks, obviously she felt that he may have cheated on her as well..
I dont think she is going to do the same with you. Just keep doing what you are doing and she will fall in love with you. I mean, she hesitated at first with you so that is a good sign.
A lot of successful relionships came from the person cheating on their partners with the partner who they have a good relationship now.
You have to ask yourself. Do you trust her? Is she trust worthy? My advice is to maybe do some "tests" to find her true nature. Something like getting your hot friend to hit on her :)