What percentage of a first date do you spend talking versus listening?

I'm curious to see how the answers differ between guys and girls. I'm also curious to know if you're currently in a relationship.

  • Listen 90% / Talk 10%
    8% (1)25% (2)14% (3)Vote
  • Listen 70% / Talk 30%
    15% (2)75% (6)38% (8)Vote
  • Listen 50% / Talk 50%
    54% (7)0% (0)33% (7)Vote
  • Talk 70% / Listen 30%
    23% (3)0% (0)15% (3)Vote
  • Talk 90% / Listen 10%
    0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
And you are? I'm a GirlI'm a Guy

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I would say I listen more at first, because I sometimes don't know what to say, so it's more about listening and responding.
    It depends on our dynamic too though... some first dates, I felt I talked the entire time... others, I feel I barely got a word in.

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    • Thanks for MH!

What Girls Said 9

  • hmm it depends on how talkative the guy is tbh. i can take on both roles. if he's quiet ill talk more, if he's talkative I'm all ears:)

    generally tho id go 50-50 :)

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  • B. I listen more than I talk to begin with. I talk more as I get more comfortable.

    Yes, I'm in a relationship. I'm definitely the more quiet one.

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  • With my online boyfriend atm. 50/50, he Always asks me questions that he wants me to answer to get me to talk haha.
    In real life it would probably be 90/10. (listen/talk)

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  • I'm usually reserved during a first date (if it's an actual date), but the guys I date are too, usually. So I'd say 50:50.

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  • I will go with 50/50

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  • I want to be C since it is equal but I am definitely D :) I like talking :)

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  • I think about 50/50 :) if he is not a talkative person, I ask questions to make him talk LOL so:P

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  • I talk waaaay too much. Dont mean to... Working on it. I talk 65/ of the time usually.

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  • I talk a bunch! Maybe it's from being nervous. XD

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What Guys Said 3

  • Listen 90% / Talk 10

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  • It depends on the girl. I usually like to listen more but I can talk well to.

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  • As a guy, it's always important not to talk about too much or get too specific on a first date, so questions are usually asked. I'd say the optimal amount for me on a first date would be 70/30, listening/talking.

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