I'm not all the way feminist but I do believe in emotional abuse and mental abuse. Such as a man being a womanizer and manipulator. This is why I didn't give my last ex the opportunity to get married with me. Not even to have children he would bring it up and I would say yes sure. Yet in the back of my head I knew that if we were married and I found out he kept on playing games I would walk out of the marriage and get child support for our child. I wouldn't stay there for him to keep on using me for sex or to be a friend for him. Now I'm glad that it's all over since I'm sparing hurt for my future children, myself and him. I understand that he was hurt in the past which is the reason why he couldn't give me his heart. So I am understanding on maybe he experienced things in the past that made him this way. My problem is that as much as I can be compassionate to things like this. I can't shake the fact that I have become pretty heartless myself and that could affect my future family. I have noticed the men in my family were raised by women turned out to be great husbands. As I said I have compassion towards men's feelings but I just can't stay in a marriage like that. So I'm kind of feminist and kind of not. How do I deal with this way of thinking?
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That doesn't sound like you're being a feminist.
That sounds like you actually have legitimate, fair, and reasonable expectations of self-respect.2