Why is forgiveness better than revenge?

Why is forgiveness always better even if it means to forgive the worst person in the world.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Because forgiveness and revenge are not about doing something to the other person, they are about doing something for yourself.

    If you are able to forgive, you will give yourself a positive gift. You can wrap up something and leave it behind you. There is nothing more that connects you to the other person, you are both released from one another.

    If you take revenge, you will give yourself something negative. You won't leave it behind you but instead keep it closer to you than ever before. The other person is still in your life after revenge and "getting even" will never feel as good as "getting past".

    Sometimes, people don't have the strength to forgive and they have to get revenge because it is all that is in their power to do. Revenge is still better than wallowing in grief (depression = anger without the enthousiasm).

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What Guys Said 9

  • I believe in turning the other cheek for the RIGHT people. If the person who wronged you is genuinely a kind hearted person and it happened to be an accident, then I will gladly turn my cheek.

    However, if you live to cause misery to others, I will grind you under my heel like the inferior creature you are.

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  • Because forgiveness is closure. Thoughts of revenge consume people. That's not saying that everyone can or should be forgiven. But most can.

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  • What if the revenge you take on them doesn't affect them the way you want it to? What if you don't feel satisfied? What if that's what they want you to do?

    What if they had second thoughts about what they did or said and want to mend things?

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  • Because petty revenge brings you down to that person's level. Forgiveness is better because usually (not always) people do 'bad' things because of internal pain and things missing in their own lives. OThers are just assholes. IF you try to get them back, you're also an asshole. If you want revenge, try living better than the person who wronged you.

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  • No, its not. I tried forgiving so many people who wronged me in past , i still feel bad of what happened , if i would have punched even few of those people, i could have felt much better ;)

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  • With forgiveness your able to move on with your life and avoid the potential consequences of revenge such as Jail or possible retaliation from them.

    Also you can use it to become a stronger person and avoid being consumed by constant thoughts of getting back at someone.

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  • I don't believe the bs. The only reason it's better is that you personally release the hate and get over it. But I think you get over it if you get revenge as well lol.

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  • Because revenge makes one accountable for their action, and no person is worth getting jailed for.

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  • Forgiveness heals. Revenge doesn't.

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What Girls Said 5

  • If you are religious, then, "Revenge is mine, saith the Lord."

    If you're not, then, well, forgiveness is better cause you aren't stooping down to their level. You are acknowledging that what they did is wrong but you're gonna forgive them anyways. Depends on situation, of course.
    Forgiving someone is hard but I believe it gives you more peace of mind than getting revenge. Revenge, to me, kind of makes you look childish.

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  • At first I would forgive people due to moral beliefs but as I began to constently fight to forgive, it kinda went in my system and naturally I just end up forgiving people. I think forgiving is extremely hard at first, but extremely rewarding. We've all done bad things in life, and by not forgiving others, who are we to ask for forgiveness? Not only that, but once you fogive someone, your heart becomes free from all the anger and pain. It takes time, but it makes you into a better person. And if we stay angry at someone, what does that really do? It doesn't effect the person, but rather our being, meaning we're Still letting the other person control us. So why waste our time in anger if we could be mature andd understanding and forgiving? But through all of these, I think there's something selfish about forgiveness because we're doing it for our own being rather than the other. At least I do so I'll feel free, and though it's kinda selfish on my part, I think forgiving is the best thing

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  • When you’re really angry, it takes a lot of patience and will power to not take revenge on someone. Revenge tastes sweet but often leaves a bitter aftertaste..

    Forgiveness softens your heart and makes you a better person, judging from the fact that you chose to let go and move on without returning the pain that the other person caused you. When you take revenge, it feels good but sometimes you have regrets later due to the fact that you acted instantly without thinking. Not stooping down to the other person’s level is also a factor- you should dignify yourself to the point where you just forgive them for their actions and realize that it shouldn’t affect you.

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  • For me, forgiving someone is easier. Less work. Revenge requires planning plotting scheming and I can't do all that. I'd rather stay angry for days and then forgive when I can find it in my heart to forgive. Or if I can't then I stay mad forever and don't talk to the person at all (actually that hasn't happened yet).
    Revenge is like a vicious cycle. Someone hurts you so you hurt them. Then they hurt you and you hurt them...it never ends.

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  • fuck forgiveness some people deserve the worse

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