I went out with this chick 5 times. I asked her at the start if she's seeing anyone and she denied it. After 2 outings, I asked her on a proper date. She said she just wanted to be friends and isn't looking for anyone right now. So we went out as friends another 3 times. I found out from a mutual acquaintance that she was sleeping with another guy all this time (4 months) and they recently broke up. I broke off my friendship with this girl, as I hate liars.
Same story with 3 other girls.
Why do they do this? Why not just be honest? If they want to be friends with a guy, why is it wrong for them to just say they're seeing someone?
It's frustrating and a waste of time, and makes me despise the girl in the end.
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People don't say what's actually happening because they're afraid to. If you asked a girl if she was seeing someone and she said well I occasionally hook up with this one guy but he's a jerk and I only go to him because I get lonely and just really want a night with someone would you stay? If a girl said well I really like this one guy but he doesn't seem that interested so I'm trying other people in hopes that I get over him but I'm still talking to him just in case he changes his mind would you stay? If a girl says well I have a really good friend that really likes me and I like having him around but I really don't want to date him would you stay? If a girl says I'm really unsure of what I want so I'm just going out with any and every guy that asks would you stay? If a girl says I'm still really attached to my ex and will probably go running back to him as soon as he gives me another chance would you stay? If a girl says I met this one guy out of town who seems really interesting but rarely shows up but I'm not in an actual relationship with him would you stay? Probably not. Most guys wouldn't. So that's why we use vague terms like dating and seeing and talking to. It's twisted but it's life. No girl is going to outright say what the situation is because she doesn't want you to know and she may not even know herself. They're scared. They aren't deceiving you out of spite or to play you. We all want love or companionship or sex or something I don't know, but whatever it is it's a tricky thing. If she tells you she risks having you leave if she doesn't and you find out you leave. If she solely focuses on you and ignores every other guy trying to get her attention she risks missing out on someone she might've really enjoyed a relationship with. These girls aren't doing these things to hurt you they're just confused and unsure. Just like all of us. I'm not saying it's okay I'm just saying it's reality. You either accept it or live in angry denial your choice.1