So this girl and I have been rather close friends for several months. We've dated, slept together, all night chats and everything like a gf/bf except we're not gf/bf lol.
we got into an argument and she went completely cold for 2weeks (no talking at all) she restricted her fb from me even though we're still friends. she said she did this because she needs to focus on her career (she works 7am-11pm almsot everyday) and that i was disturbing her (with arguments). WHAT lol
after the 2wks i talked to her but she seemed less chatty and busy with work apparently. sometimes not replying at all.
i went no contact for about a month as my female friends advised me to. i initiated contact again after that but she seems either not chatty or not reply at all again
so should i just not contact her at all for now? like for longer period? wait for her to contact me?
all of my female friends suggests that i dont contact her as she maybe really busy with work, needs time for herself, not ready for commitments yet (according to her younger sister)
tbh i don't want to lose her. we had good times together and i thought she liked me! lol. i don't wanna be the one that keeps contacting her as it may seem needy.
and about no contact. do i still wish her on special occasions/holidays? (newyears etc?) i'm treating this as a breakup as we used to be 'lovers' lol
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No contact only works if she still had feelings for you and you didn't do any irreparable damage. Those arguments clearly bothered her, and I can speak from experience, are a real distraction from everyday life.
I just had a similar experience with a "friend" who was going to turn into something more. We got into an argument that lasted over a day, and it was so distracting (and a turn off) that I had to cut contact because I couldn't focus on school. He's sort of gone no contact on me now, but it's been a relief.
Maybe if you give her more space and try again much later (like a month) you can see what happens, but more than anything she feels annoyed that the argument took place. Have you tried apologizing for it yet? Or are you trying to pretend like it never happened?0
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