I am in my mid-thirties. I used to weigh close to 300 lbs due to an undiagnosed health issue that is now treated and I have lost more than 150 lbs. I've always been told I have a pretty face. With my clothes on, I look really good... off, it's a horror show. If you're unfamiliar with the term excess skin, google it at our own peril! I'm covered in stretch marks and loose excess skin (arms, torso, legs) :( I now get asked out a lot and I'm constantly turning down men I would love to get to know better... A female friend accused me of "false advertising" but it's not like I can walk around naked or put a sign on my forehead!!! Truth is, I don't expected anyone to be attracted to "that" but maybe someone can look past it? My question is: When would you like to know? Before I accept your invitation? On our first date? When we hit it off? Right before we get intimate? Thank you...
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This is something that you have to take in stride honestly dear. I have a friend of mine who went through the same thing. Her now husband was totally understanding about the whole thing.
Honestly if the guy you are with cannot deal with this then it makes me wonder what is he there for. If he just wants in your pants then thats not really a big loss. Your friend saying you are false advertising, exactly how? I mean I agree with you, are you supposed to walk around with a sandwich sign around your neck saying: I had gastric bypass surgery and I have excess skin, love me at your own peril?
Just take the topic in stride, in that if you are comfortable with a guy and think he is actually there with you, then you can tell him. Telling him on the first date is a bit off. How does that exactly come up in conversation? "Hey the lobster bisque is amazing!!" "Yes it is, so are the bread rolls, by the way i had surgery and have a whole bunch of extra skin, would you like some butter?"
Then at some point see what you can do about possibly getting surgery to get it removed. Its not cheap, but its worth it long run. My friend I mentioned above had it done. Its not the most pleasant of experiences I've heard of, but she is happy with the results.1