I have a friend with benefits but I feel like it's time to meet someone new. I was thinking of going out on dates with other guys but my doubts are:
- Do I ever mention during the dates that I have a fuckbuddy/ friend with benefits? What if the guy asks if I'm seeing someone?
- What if the guy actually knows I have a fuckbuddy? Isn't it weird if he's asking me out and I'm not dumping the fuckbuddy?
All of my friends and his friends know we've been seeing each other for almost 9 months... they know I kind of have feelings for him too...
I had a sort of date a few weeks ago with a guy... and then we found out we have a friend in common. This common friend knows that at some point I was totally in love with my fuckbuddy and I guess the guy I dated probably also knows about that now!
How do you balance having a fuckbuddy/friend with benefits plus dating other people? I'm the honest and open kind of person, hate playing games and hiding stuff!!
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If you just start dating new people (i.e., go on one or two dates with them), it's generally under the guise that they, too, are dating other people. That's the point of dating: to see which person you are most compatible with. If, however, things start to hypothetically get more serious with a person you are going on dates with (you start to see yourself with them, you've been on multiple dates and they've expressed strong interest in you), it's best to cut ties with your fuck buddy.
You don't want to get to that point in seeing someone new when the exclusive talk comes up and they say "I'm not seeing anyone else and don't want to" and you're still fucking someone on the side.
And honestly, you really should cut ties with your fuck buddy regardless of whether or not you want to date new people. You clearly have feelings for him but the situation is staying the same, and that's not healthy. As a girl who's been in your shoes, you're holding yourself back and putting yourself through unnecessary heartbreak.1