when you are looking for a boyfriend or a girlfriend what are your expectations?
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Well, apparently fat girls aren't supposed to have any expectations lol
I have no experience here. I'm the tragic single virgin fatty. But it's partly (mostly, maybe?) my fault. I dont date at all so far...I scared. :'(
I dont think I have an unreasonably long list of things. Some friends say I'm picky, others dont. I just know whom I'm attracted to physically, and while that does tend to be certain things more than others, its not one specific look. So physically attracted, and also personality. Personality is the hard part, the whole package is the hard part. Especially if you're a very political person like I am and someones character, their beliefs, values, matter. I also want someone who likes traveling like I do, who is ambitious, compassionate, loves talking to me (because I can definitely talk...), has the intellectual capacity to keep up in discussions that aren't so silly, and then has the humor and light hearted side to be silly and appreciate my silliness in return. I guess in that sense my standards are high? But that doesn't seem like anything. That just seems like a person looking for compatible people, right? Why would I want someone with characteristics that mean we wouldn't get along well? No brainer.
Actually, looks may be the hard part. Well, I don't know it all goes together. If I got out there more and if I was more open to flirting and come ons, and less uptight about this stuff, I'd be closer to getting what I want. Enough people to whom I'm attracted seem attracted to me even though I am quite fat. BUT still, a lot of people I'm attracted to arent. And I have a race preference. I'm mainly into non-black guys, but I'm a mixed girl (black). Its not about looks, I'm very pretty...but most white guys aren't jumping at the chance to date a fat black girl. I have to be real with myself on that.
Does this answer the question? I'm not sure I answered the question the way you wanted it answered lol0