i recently lost 45 lbs and now no guys approach me. Even the ones I approach ends up rejecting me? I used to get more dates when i used to be fat and did not even know how to dress well i used to just look like a bum..now that i have lost weight and also i dress well guys dont approach me at all..:( i dont know if this negative but its really depressing me. I haven't been out on a date since i lost all that weight..and more so the ones i have asked out straight up rejected me...its really sad... i am still the same even below avg guys rejects me..anybody has any advice on my situation?
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Maybe its one of those reverse-double-backflip situations.
For example, losing weight increases confidence of self-appearance (maybe even creates an assumption of being more attractive). Then such confidence shows with guys (or even worse, the assumption of being more attractive which could be easily read as arrogance). Then you get nailed on a quirk or a vibe that you didn't have before.
My advice? Act like you did when you were heavier, but do so while you are lighter. That should help.
If you are absolutely 100% sure are coming off to he same to others, then I would just call it a "bad luck streak." One week everything I had kept breakingg, I swear there were gremlins in my house destroying all mechanical devices. Other times I go years with everything running perfectly. It could be a case of relationship gremlins. Just let the bad luck streak run its course and let things look up.0