Had a date organized with this boy for over week, it was suppose to be tonight... but he text me before saying that he can't make it cause its his mates birthday meal and that he completely forgot about it.
Do I believe him or not?
We had spoken about it throughout this week and even through texting last night.
I don't understand and its really upset me as I was so excited...
You know, if I were that guy, and if I liked you enough (even just as a friend) I'd be trying to invite you along to my buddy's party. Doesn't exactly matter where the date is, it's that I'd still try to spend lots of time with you.
If that couldn't work, I'd try to do both, and explain the situation.
I'd still try to make it up and have a special date, of course, just us two (so I'd be making a counter offer to show that I'm still interested).
You could give him the benefit of the doubt, but be cautious. This is showing "flaky" behavior at the very least; and you don't want to date a flaky person. Yes, everyone screws up (unlikely something like his friend's birthday party would be forgotten about, but it's possible), so you trust him on this one. But, you don't rush to be with him. Keep showing interest, but don't jump through hoops.
If he flakes again, though, forget him and move on.
I'd say it's a simple case of him forgetting a prearranged event. Plain and simple, guys forget... a lot. Dates and events don't really stand out to us that easily. You're looking into this wayyy to deeply. Forgive and forget, rearrange a new date, and if he does the same thing, then you will have reason to question, but for now, let it go. It's almost selfish to think that he has to do everything for you and give his life to you, he has other friends that he had before you two started seeing each other, he can't just give them up as well. Give him some space and things should right themselves.
I think far too many people are jumping the gun here.
I forget plans all the time, and if he made plans with his mate before you, then usually that takes precedent. The thing to keep in mind is if he said sorry, and if he makes an effort to reschedule. I'm sure he is very excited to see you, that's probably why he forgot his friends party haha.
So just sit back and wait for him to reschedule. So long as you keep up the texting, everything should be good!
If he made a date with you he is supposed to keep it. If he forgot his mate's birthday meal, he should have asked you if it is ok to reschedule and should have suggested new dates. It shows immaturity.
Also, it shows that you need to have a busier calendar. Not necessarily dates, but things with your friends, family etc. He must have felt that you are so eager and have so much free time that he can get a date with you any time. As you know, anything that can be had easily has less value.
So, don't ask him about it or ask him out. If he asks you out, do not agree to the first suggestion. Say that you have something planned that time but ask for an alternate. When he suggests, tell him that most probably that date is fine but you will confirm him if he could call and check in after a day. This way he would know that you are busy and your time is valuable.
In any case this incident tells a lot about his character and you should remember that.
I don't think he was lying sounds like to bad of an excuse to have made up...If it was me and I was lying I would have came up with a better excuse than that I would say it was true and you should just try to set something else up good luck!
If you are texting him all the time it could be that he feels you are getting too clingy. Unfortunately from the sound of it, it sounds like he canceled on purpose. On the other hand he didn't want to tell you that he just didn't want to do it which means he didn't want to hurt your feelings.
I would let it sit for a day or two and then ask him if he would like to reschedule for another time.
Just let him be for now, give him a day or two to get back in touch with you first. If he doesn't then decide if you want to contact him and ask if you want to get back in touch with him and see if he wants to meet and do something.
If he even forgets you at all, that means you are not important to him. You were excited about this date all week, and it was impossible for you to forget. How could he forget? He does not care. He obviously has no excitement about dating you. Forget him now. It's already a bad sign.
sometimes guys backout because they like you so much and this boy already has a built up view of you, in his own mind that he probably doesn't want to share with you or not yet. And he feels he will let you down and disappoint you about himself. To say he completely forgot about it, his date to you, is saying he is not ready, not that he is not ready for you. You "must" be a very pretty girl...
I will make this simple. He is not that interested in you. It doesn't matter that he knows you like him too. Unfortunately he is not that in to you. A guy who is wouldn't be so wishy washy, saying he needs to get to know you when the two of you have known each other for a while. A guy who sees you as a potential romantic partner would be beating down your door for this date. Also, don't text him anymore. You will not get him to admit that he isn't that in to you. No guy wants to say something like that. They just do things like cancel dates, don't answer texts, don't pursue you, etc.