I went on only one date with a guy I used to go to junior high with. I'm 18 now and he's 20 now. He found me on Facebook through mutual friends and asked me to go on a date for Starbucks and a movie. I eventually found out he had dated about 4 other girls we went to school with and I don't want to be just another girl he dated from the same school. He has only taken two class at a junior college and doesn't seem motivated to look for a summer job, where as I'm in a 4 year university and been applying at various places. So him not really doing much with his life bothers me. I'm also not that physically attracted to him but he has an energetic personality and is very confident. I'm not saying I'm perfect at all, but I would be attracted to someone who is very motivated to get an education and working! He's kind but texts me every single day of every single minute when I'm busy or going to job interviews. Am I being too harsh on the guy? Should I give it another date? When I genuinely like a guy I love texting with him and I feel those butterflies in my stomach when I see him. I haven't felt like that with this guy...at least not yet. Please, I need specific advice! Thank you.
- move on, you can do betterVote A
- Give it another dateVote B
- he'll be motivated eventually, so wait and see how it goesVote C
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Sounds like you like him, but would be better off as friends. There are too many red flags, and it doesn't seem like it would work between you two in the long run. I think it would be best for you to possibly keep talking to him as a friend, but not make him your #1 choice, because he doesn't seem like he's on your level or of your interest!1