Do any of you get to the point where you just can't be bothered to date anymore like you've totally had enough. I swear I've had the worst year of dating that's kinda made me feel like I'm put off for life. It's all the bs that comes with it and all the effort you make to try and get to know someone and then you realise it was all for nothing.
I've dated players but not your typical ones, I've had ones that ask me when they can meet my mum lol and even talk about kids. All for it to last for a couple of weeks and then on to the next chick. I swear players are coming with a new tactic
So my question is what things should I look out for to weed these players out quick? I thought talking about kids was a little extra but do some players really go that far?
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First, stop meeting men at bars, dance clubs, and other places that are made for getting wild. By the very nature of these venues, most of the men in them are meeting women with the intention of getting wild, not with the intention of falling in love and getting married.
Second, see confidence as a sham. A man with arrogant confidence is more likely to feel entitled to use women for his own gratification and many women (who do not see confidence as a sham) will throw themselves at him to be used. A man with apathetic confidence is less likely to emotionally invest in relationships, which makes him more likely to pursue other women. A man with false confidence is one who lacks self-esteem and believes that pursuing women will fix his self-esteem. In short, confidence is a warning sign. Evolution has built into women the instinct to pursue confident men, because confident men are more likely to be players who have more offspring who have more offspring, which is all evolution cares about, but this instinct also makes women vulnerable to being played. In other words, your attraction to confidence is a cruel trick. The smart woman knows this and fights her instincts. She looks for the man who approaches with trepidation, because he has invested his emotions in her feelings and opinions (that's what scares him) and he is honest (that's why he does not use false confidence). This is the man who is likely to treat a woman as well as she deserves.1