After 3 years of dating my bf and I are still living separately. We both talk about our future house and plans but he is not financially ready to be on his own. He is still in school and his family just gets by. I have my own place, a great job and I am looking to move on to the next step. I feel like we are stuck in a rut.
During semesters my bf stays at my place because it is convenient since I am so close to his campus. During breaks he goes home and spends time with family. We both love each other very much and he tries so hard to help me out and be there for me in ways other than financially since he is generally broke.
Last year however my bf broke my trust and stepped out of line, border line cheating. This was during his summer break. Anyways, we moved past the incident and he really turned his ways around and showed me how sorry he was. It's now summer again and he is back home working on hobbies and spending time with family. He lives about 45 mins away and we agreed to try and see each other on weekends since he and I both have things to do during the week.
However, I am not handling the separation well. We went from spending every day together during the last semester to now just one day a week. I am worried he might step out of line again, I get irritated when he takes time to meet up with other friends who live in my direction but doesn't come to see me, and I seem to evaluate how much he misses me and how faithful he is by the communication he makes with me. If He texts throughout the day I am happy. But if he takes 8 hours to respond I worry that he is talking to another girl.
I am driving myself crazy. I have forgiven him but the anxiety hasn't gone away. And if I keep reminding him to stay on a straight path and checking up on what he is doing it will drive him away. What are your thoughts?
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You seem to be having a chip on your shoulder about doing better than him, financially. If your attitude above is apparent to him too, it's not going to do anything good to him.
"Cheating" might then become one way of proving his self-worth to himself... Why not just leave him?0
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