I am in college and my female roommate is easily one of the most gorgeous girls I have seen in person, I am so drawn to her it is ridiculous, but I cannot help my feelings.
I am 21 and she is 24, and here's the kicker, we are housemates...
The other day I saw her with another man in the house, and they even went on a romantic walk together. Seeing her with another guy made me feel both angry and depressed at the same time, to the point where I could not even focus on my school work. I cannot fathom the image of this douchebag penetrating her, it makes me feel physically sick.
Since I moved in with her I have been very kind, have carried a positive demeanor and have done all kinds of housework: I vacuum, take out the garbage, sweep the floors, empty the dishwasher, I even pulled dandelions out of her yard. I do this out of the goodness of my own heart and my desire to serve others.
I baked cookies for her and her friend (I have 2 female roommates) and made point to offer them the cookies when I saw them.
I am just as physically attractive as she is if not more so, and I make an effort to dress as nicely as I can every day.
The thing is, she seems reluctant to communicate with me very much, perhaps because I am her roommate, which I can understand, I've known her for 1 month and I am living with her for 2 more months.
I know this is a bit much, but I want her to stop seeing this backwards-cap and flip-flop wearing idiot and want her to develop strong feelings of attraction towards me.
I am better dressed than him, more handsome in the face than him, smile more than him, will have a better career than him. I honestly think I am untouchable compared to him, the only advantage over me being his increased physical size, older age and masculinity. I will not let this fool steal this woman's heart, I cannot accept it.
I think I have done my very best to give off the best impression possible to her so far, but need advice on what to do next.
Most Helpful Girl
First you should not compare yourself to this guy. Obviously she sees something in him that she does not see in you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe you are not as "handsome in the face" as you think. Also do not call him an idiot just because you have feelings for her. You do not even know this guy so do not judge him.
Second, she is your roommate. If you cannot handle female roommates then you should not have them. She has a right to date whoever she wants and so what if you get angry. You should not be. You did not make any attempts to make a move on her and now that she has someone you finally want to? How about you grow up first before asking anything else. Or better yet... move on.2