So ladies (or girls, whatever) how can a guy protect himself from being 'friendzoned'?
There are highly polarized opinions about this. Some people say that a guy should take the direct approach of making it clear in the very beginning that he wants to date the woman and not just be friends, which would ensure he gets a quick 'yes' or 'no', and the risk of the woman developing a friendly bond rather than a romantic one with him is eliminated. These people are absolutely certain that starting out as 'friends' is a recipe for disaster because the man is almost sure to be friendzoned.
But others say the opposite. They feel that a guy approaching a woman for a date without knowing much about her would seem really creepy to the woman (unless he was extremely physically attractive), so it would be a better idea to start out as friends, get to know the woman better, and then make a move if he feels he has a reasonably good chance of not being friendzoned.
As a 27 year old guy, its VERY confusing for me so even at this age I'm yet to approach women (so obviously I've never been on a date or had a girlfriend) . Its the truth, but please don't call me a 'loser' because I have succeeded in several other aspects of life (except women).
Question for women: Do you prefer a guy to take the direct approach soon after meeting you, or do you prefer to be friends with him first so that you can judge your compatibility with him until the time he asks you out (IF he asks you out, that is)?
Question for men: Which approach do you generally use? And if you use both approaches depending on the woman, which method has got you better results?
Most Helpful Girl
There's really no way of "protecting" yourself from it. Either she'll like you, or she won't. But whatever, I'll say what I've always said.
1. You can befriend her, yes, but at the same time make sure that you're flirting with her. That way she won't at least immediately think of you as a friend, considering that you won't act 100% like a friend (friends generally don't really flirt with each other).
2. If she does friendzone you, you don't have to keep being her friend. You can literally say "sorry, I don't think I'd be able to be your friend because I'm too interested in you", and then you move on. Simple as that. You're not in the friendzone if you aren't her friend to begin with.
That is all.2
Most Helpful Guy
The worst thing you can do is ask women for dating advice, they'll just confuse the hell out of you. In fact no, the worst thing you can do is try to please all women, because they all want different things. Some want "friends first", others prefer dating. The friends first lot are more likely to friend-zone you because that's how you end up there in the first place - they don't think of you as anything more than a friend and they don't want to ruin the friendship. It also takes more effort, and it's kinda fake as you're trying to get with them while pretending to want to be their friend, I'd say that's more creepy than being upfront. Whereas if you as someone out on a date they are thinking about whether or not you might make a good boyfriend or not. And if she is interested things will develop much more quickly than if you're "just friends".
I've always preferred being direct and just dating women for that reason. It's up to you how direct you want to be, just make sure you flirt plenty, and do it shamelessly.0