am I too ugly?
is being a tomboy bad?
am I too short? (5"1')
do I play too hard to get?
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Your height and appearance are good. There's nothing wrong with being cute and bite-sized ;)
As for being a tomboy, it can be a disadvantage. I've met some girls who were really cool in a tomboyish way but they were messy, burped, farted, and other things that made it hard to think about them as romantic partners. There's nothing wrong with taking an interest in typical guy things, but remember that guys want to date girls, not one of the guys. Google "how to become more feminine" and incorporate what you'd feel comfortable incorporating.
Playing too hard to get? Maybe. I've heard many girls say they play hard to get, but they didn't know what the expression really meant. It means being slow to warm up physically so that players, jerks, flakes, and other undesirables walk away from you knowing they wasted their time and cannot comfort themselves with thoughts like, "At least I got a blowjob." Being hard to get means nothing more than warming up slowly, being hard to game, and being hard to take advantage of. Those girls I mentioned? They thought it meant being anti-social, saying rude things to see if he is "man enough" not to walk away from mistreatment, and otherwise shit-testing him. That's not hard to get. That's hard to enjoy being around.
Too independent? I have no idea of what that's supposed to mean. (shrugs)
I think your biggest problem is that you are shy and don't flirt (or you keep your flirting so subtle that people don't even realize you're flirting). You would do well to search Google for "how to flirt". As for fixing the shyness problem, I don't think there's any advice that can be given. This is just one of those things that you need to work hard to soldier through. If you can get yourself a little more feminine, a little more confident in interacting with others, and little more bold in your style of flirtation, then you will have a lot more success.0