I met a woman through work and we started texting. After about a week or two of this she asked me to go watch a sports game with her at a bar. We hit it off and started making out. She told me the next day she had been seeing someone but they were on a break while he "figured stuff" out with his ex who still lives with him. I asked her if that meant she didn't want to see me again and she said she did. We spent the next weekend together and even went to an island for the day. We kissed a few times there too. Ever since we got back she has become more and more distant. I asked her if she wanted to hang out during the week, nothing crazy and she told me she wanted a "me" day. I figured no big deal. She just spent both her days off with me so I brushed it off. I gave her a few days then I texted her to say hi. She made some small talk and then abruptly said "well I'm off to bed". It's 9:30pm. My grandma doesn't even go to bed that early. She has been very honest with me, so I think she would just say if she doesn't want to see me anymore. But I'm feeling signals that she's trying to give me a hint without coming out and saying it. What should I do? I was going to ask her to lunch this weekend but now I don't see the point. One side note I have been divorced for a year but I haven't told her yet. I thought it was something I should tell her in person, not over text, but the right moment hasn't come up, plus until we went to the island I didn't really know we had anything going and I didn't want to saying anything about it then because I didn't want it to distract from the day. Should I have told her? They don't really put out a manual for this sort of thing and some people say you should say it on the first date, some say wait a couple and see where it is going. If I do see her again, I am definitely telling her whether there is a good time or not, because I don't believe in holding things back. It will only make things worse. Did I wait too long?
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Or you can stop wondering and just ask her. Be straight up with her and ask her if this is the part where she all of a sudden puts you off to the side and stops talking to you because of the guy she was seeing...because if she's gunna do that to just let you know now..tell her you won't be mad you just don't wanna feel played with and you completely understand. I'd much rather someone tell me the honest truth than to be wasting my time playin kid games and having me catch feelings.. I don't like that.1
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