He said he won't date me because he is scared
This guy I like has told me he loved me and that I have his heart but he won't date me because he is scared to get hurt like he did previously. I... Show More
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It sounds like you are doing all the things you would be doing, so you are effectively getting what you want from the relationship. Are you really so hung up on the titles 'boyfriend/girlfriend' that you would jeopardize what you have? My advice would be to carry on down the route you are going. Things are stepping up slowly at a rate that he's comfortable with and it sounds like you are not too dissatisfied with your progress. You are clearly boyfriend and girlfriend! Let him ease himself into that situation without pressuring him unduly. As for feeling vulnerable about him seeing other people, I think you have a right to demand exclusivity if you stayed the night. You could say that if he doesn't want to officially 'date' you, then you want first refusal, so that he can't date anyone else in the meantime. That would be a light hearted way of bringing the subject up and should get you the assurance you need. Good luck - you both sound like nice people.
What Guys Said 3
WiseBlonde, You do realize that adding the boyfriend/girlfriend "title" would have very little impact on whether he would want to decide to meet someone else. People get married and even that has very little impact on being exclusive so why put so much emphasis on the "title? " If things are going well, which it does sound like it is, enjoy what you have and if it is meant to be the rest will fall into place. Enjoy each others company and be merry and don't fret the little details such as titles. P. S. If he is scared of dating then that could also imply he is still unsure of how you feel for him and he needs to come to terms with how you feel for him on his own. Give him some space.
To me it sounds like you're dating without the official term. I would ask why he doesn't want to be official. If he can't commit to you, then it sounds like he wants to keep his options open for other girls. Why else wouldn't he commit? As far as you guys having sex, and doing all that stuff, you might have shot yourself in the foot, because right now, he's getting milk for free without having to buy the cow, so to speak. Why would he want to commit to you when he's getting all the benefits, without having you as a girlfriend. He is still free to do whatever he wants and with whoever he wants
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