Can guys hold back there ejaculation?

Sometimes when having sex my bf will blow it early and sometimes he will go longer. Usually he will blow it sooner if we haven't done it for a couple nights. Last night we hadn't done it for 3 nights and he went a little longer then normally for not doing it for a couple nihhts. He said he was holding it in and wanted me to finish. Should I believe him or maybe he watched porn? Can guys hold it in longer?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • We might be able to hold off a little bit. but not much. it is not like we can just decide when to shoot our load. the longer the time between sex the quicker it is going to happen. you can stop and take breaks to make it last longer. also, if you or he squeezes the tip of the penis really hard, that will buy you a little bit of time...
    but what it is you need to believe? a guy can go so long and that is it. he should take care of you orally first and then finish himself off. since women rarely can orgasm from penetration...

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What Guys Said 7

  • Easy to do but it is just a battle between wanting to cum and waiting longer. Sometimes you hate to wait longer for the payoff!!!

    Just comes down to either being distracted by something, removing the stimulation from the area that is making you cum, changing speeds, etc.

    Maybe he should use a dildo on you while he takes a break so he doesn't cum.

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  • Sometimes. We can hold it back sometimes and others we may just be to horny, We have some control but its not perfect. More often then not when he's about to come you can always just slow down and/or change positions. I believe a study found that as few as 7% of women can reliably come from just penetration, Generally because men finish sooner then women.

    Again, the usual way to circumvent that is switching positions when he says something along the lines of "getting close" generally when a short (as short as 5 seconds to as long as 15 or 20) break is taken we can be taken quite far away from finishing again.

    I have heard from some couples that the girl will get the guy off once and then they will mess around while they wait for him to be ready to go again and then the guy can last for quite awhile. (The couples i usually knew are usually rather shameless about going down on each other so this is usually what happened in between the "waiting")

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  • Yes and no, if your in control and you keep the same pace there is nothing i could possibly do to stop it. Even with extreme mind control and all the will in my body it will happen sooner or later.
    However if i change the pace to slow things down , do things in a way that stimulates me less in order for you to finish then yes totally possible.

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  • ...or maybe he slept with another girl. Who really knows right.

    Guys can hold back when they cum by being mindful of where they are relative to their peak. If he feels he's approaching his ejaculatory 'event horizon', then he can stop or slow down to let the feeling wane. Once he crosses that subtle boundary, though, there's nothing he can do to stop it. He can stop moving, he can squeeze it really tight, he can put a finger over the opening, it doesn't matter. He's shooting a load.

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  • Yeah they can however it'll be harder for them to cum the next time, and if they hold it back more they'll get a nice case of blue balls which hurt like hell.

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  • I usually have total control as far as holding it back but sometimes if I wait too long than it becomes harder for me to ejaculate

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  • Yes we can. You just have be careful not to let the Orgasm peak. So if you're pounding and then feel like you're about come, just stop for a little and switch positions. I can orgasm without ejaculating but it's like 30% of the time. Then later I have the full blast of release :3

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What Girls Said 1

  • What's wrong with watching porn? Guys can learn to prolong the inevitable. So, yes he can hold it off for a period

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