We've had sex just a handful of times, and now we're just friends, and we hang out a lot. Like at least once a week. Sometimes two nights on the weekend. (It's too easy for us to hang out because we're next door neighbors).
But anyway, we watch late night movies together or just hang out reading together till late, and lately the past two weeks I've started sleeping over till morning. We just fall asleep halfway through reading or whatever.
Starting last weekend, he kissed me on the cheek in my sleep. 2 days ago I slept over again and he did it again in the morning. This last Friday he asked me to go to his place when I get home from dinner, and I asked him what was up. He'd drank a bottle of wine and said, "I just missed you so I told you to come over."
From the start, with the sex, we both agreed it'd be casual. I don't want him to be falling for me :( I love our friendship and on the other hand he's not someone I want as a boyfriend.
I don't know how I'd reject him. More importantly, I'm worried our friendship will fracture if I start going out with a new guy. I don't want to be stuck to my neighbor and be disallowed a dating life.
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Meh, he probably is. But you can do things to remedy that without being a cunt about it.
1. I don't know if you're still having sex, if you are, cut back.
2. Stop hanging out so much, go out and make sure he knows you have a life outside of him that he's not included in.
3. When he invites you over, sometimes just tell him you have a date. You don't have to "start fucking some other guy" - just reinforce the idea that you're NOT dating him and NOT going to pursue a relationship with him and that you ARE out playing the field.
If you just go out and start nailing someone else while he's developing feelings, you're just going to create a rift and make him hurt and angry. When you do start fucking someone else, don't TELL him about it, it's none of his business. If he ASKS you if you're seeing/dating/fucking anyone else, you REMIND him that you agreed to keep things casual, and that you don't ask him about his dating life.1