Okay, so I am 25 and I met this guy through a matrimonial website...he is 3 years elder to me...we started talking on phone and meeting...we clicked...I never felt this way for anyone before this and even he was fond of spending time with me.
During one of our meetings, while bidding goodbye we hugged each other and I got all emotional and I told him "I love you". His reaction was very different from what I expected. He hugged me tightly and said you really do? He smiled and said even I feel for you but not sure if its love and we need to spend more time together.
I was heartbroken but I somehow managed to control my emotions and left the place with a smile on my face.
Since that day, we have been talking normally but I feel some difference in his voice tone and the way he talks to me. He says he wants to know me more before we actually decide to get married. I understand his point but I can't help feeling bad and regretting my confession every single day.
Guys, please tell me what would have been your reaction and expectation in such a situation. Should I completely withdraw and give him time and space to decide or should I continue talking and meeting him till he falls in love? Please help
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Just pretend you never said it and keep going like nothing changed. Think of him as a best friend and try to keep the emotions out of it. Eventually he will start to feel things for you and let you know. If you withdraw it will only mess with his head and derail what you have going.
Don't put any pressure on yourself or him because lets face it, does it matter if you marry him tomorrow, next month next year etc when the two of you enjoy being together?
His feelings for you haven't changed regardless of telling him you love him, maybe you are reading something into his reactions to you since that time but just be happy otherwise maybe he will read some changes in how you are acting around him. Some people just take it more cautiously and don't fall in love that easy.
Remember, everyone who has potential to fall in love, does so at a different rate and therefore one person in the relationship will always fall in love first. No big deal, keep on being yourself and enjoy his company :)1