really considered old to most men? even early 30's women are considered past their prime to most men, why is that? are men just that cruel? or is life just that cruel?
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Before answering, need to make a few key points:
-> many women in their 30s are still very desirable. Many women PAST their 30's are very desirable.
-> most women do not consider men -more- attractive when old. Some do. But lets just say that on average, men also look worse as they age.
Why are women deemed less attractive in their 30's? Because on average, women are less attractive by their 30's. Note that many are still VERY attractive, but unless they were out of shape in their 20s and got in shape by their 30s they are probably not -quite- as beautiful as they were.
The same is true for men, though perhaps a little later, men's attractiveness probably drops 5 years later then for women.
But with men, it matters much less for a whole variety of reasons:
- "Youthful" isn't seen as universally desirable in men. Some women, like cocochanel below, like boyish, 'pretty' guys, and women like her WILL find younger men more attractive by a fair margin. But her attitude is probably TYPICAL of men, where it's a minority of women. And there's another minority of women who actually prefer some aging to a man's face, some creasing, some signs of having 'lived', maybe a touch of salt and pepper. This is a minority not a majority. But the majority don't mind those things much. Plenty of men find lots of 40 year old women really hot, but they find them hot in spite of being 40, they don't say things like 'well the wrinkles make her look sexier'.
- Looks are a smaller part of what attracts women to men then vice versa. They matter, but not as much. So a decline in men's looks changes their overall attractiveness less then a similar decline in a woman's looks. Meanwhile some of the things women care about that men don't care much about - seeming wise, confident, secure, having a good career, being calmly authoritative, having interesting hobbies and experience - can improve at least into middle age. So men are getting some things to offset aging women don't...1