Been on one date and she's called herself my girlfriend?

[pablosantos]

Well as the question states, been on one date and she's called herself my girlfriend, is that a little bit odd?

[LittleSally]

Depends...
I haven't been on that date so I can't say what impression she got from you.
There are girls like that. Some are like that because they're pushy and some are like that because they're clingy.

[pablosantos]

As far as I could tell she was very impressed, do girls just say things to please us guys?

[LittleSally]

I don't know all the girls in the world, but some do say things to please others (just like guys do), but I think she just considers you two know each other well and believes you're mature enough to consider yourself her boyfriend and not go around looking for another girl to date...

[Izzy2102]

ya it's a bit early, but maybe she used it for a lack of a better term. When you've only been on a date or two your relationship status is weird. What would you say "a guy I've been out with?" "a friend"?

[pablosantos]

It is weird and thinking about it, she was going to tell me what our status was, that was something she said. Surely instead of saying "and I know being with your girlfriend is important to you" she could have said "and I know being with me is important to you" or maybe she was trying to be funny?

[Darkfairie17]

Yes that is a little odd. She seems to be getting ahead of herself here. I would definitely talk to her about this. One date is a little early to be calling herself your gf.

[Potatoe]

Maybe she wanted to be your girlfriend... and has you didn't ask her, she decided to make the first move to see if you understand it, or to test your reaction.

[pablosantos]

Do you think? Surely its a bit early for that?

[Potatoe]

I don't know, maybe she's in love with you, can happen.. How many times have you dated?

[pablosantos]

Just once, but we met online, and was texting for around two weeks before we met, she did say "on paper you're too good to be true" and "I need to meet you to know if I fancy you"

[Potatoe]

Then you're right, that's a bit early. If she never calls herself your girlfriend again, then leave it behind, maybe it was nothing. :)
But if she mentions it again, you should talk to her about it.

[d1vana]

Run @@ That's really... weird, if not creepy. Sorry but I question her judgmental skills XD

So yes, i do think it's odd.

[guyfrompluto]

it may be normal if the girl is inexperienced, but to the rest of us it will be a little odd.

[pablosantos]

I did think she was perhaps looking for a reaction from me, as she isn't inexperienced as far as I know

[guyfrompluto]

so i'm curious what was your response? If I really liked the girl, I would've just said "sure why not" to see her reaction. It's not a concrete answer, but more of a "because you said it, so i'm going with the flow for now" type of response.

[pablosantos]

It was a text message and in the message was "and I know being with your girlfriend is important to you" I just said "being with you is important, but I don't own you" it was in relation to her coming out tonight

[guyfrompluto]

Oh I see.
That response is pretty good... that is until some how she ends up really being your girl friend. Then she'll be like.. "so i'm an object you can own now is that it?" lol.. I'm just messing with you. good reply.

[WhiteSteve]

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[pablosantos]

Nuts then?

[WhiteSteve]

Well, I can't say for sure. But that's a pretty aggressive and, frankly, cocky move. How did she say it? Like what was the context?

[pablosantos]

We were talking about our date tonight, and she started by being a bit "I might come tonight" so I was like "If you've got a lot of university stuff to do, that's more important" so then she replied with "and I know being with your girlfriend is important to you" and then said "i'll see you at six"

[WhiteSteve]

Hmmm... OK. Well... she definitely is into you, haha. Have you known her long? If you were friends first she may have higher expectations for where this will go. If you just met her on the street a few days ago and asked her out, its a little more weird. Did you guys get physical after the first date? Some girls, if you sleep with them, that's automatic to them that you're now in a relationship.

[pablosantos]

Just once, but we met online, and was texting for around two weeks before we met, she did say "on paper you're too good to be true" and "I need to meet you to know if I fancy you" And yes it did get physical after our first date.

[WhiteSteve]

Ahhhh, and there we have it, haha. Yeah, sounds like she's all in on this. Are you liking her so far? If so, maybe just roll with it. If you're undecided still, you might want to talk to her about the speed you guys are moving at, which is a very delicate conversation. Put her feelings at the forefront of all of it, and let her know that this is about protecting her emotional well-being, not your reluctance or perceived reluctance to commit. A lot of girls, if they sleep with you --boom-- you're their boyfriend. That might be genuine emotional attachment, or it could be at least in part due to her not wanting to be judged by others. Many girls are very keen on labeling relationships when sex is involved. I know quite a few girls who say "I only have sex with my boyfriends." I've seen these same girls split with these guys in under a week, but they feel better about saying it was a failed relationship than saying they banged some random dude a few times, haha.

[pablosantos]

Yeah I am, she's a really cool girl and great to be around, so hopefully it'll be good. I kind of knew about the emotional attachment thing that you mention or maybe it was just a quick band and we're going out again tonight for the sake of it? But one thing that does puzzle me, is she still goes online and regular, admittedly I do, but just to check what messages I've had and not to chat.

[WhiteSteve]

Well that's awesome, bro, hope things continue to go well! I was reading your responses to others and it seems it was through text that she said it, so you never know what her intended tone could have been. Maybe it would have come with a little elbow nudge in person, its so hard to read sarcasm and humor through text sometimes. When you say "online", I assume this refers to like a match. com type of thing? Sorry, I'm a little old and out of touch, I never did the online dating scene, haha. If she's someone you're still interested in, I'd say just see how it all plays out. Sounds like your intentions were never to hit-it-and-quit-it, so your conscience should be clean regardless of the outcome. Sounds like she's eager to be in a relationship, but if that's your endgame anyway, might as well go for the ride and see where it takes you. Watch for signs of clinginess in person on your next date, but i don't think you need to write her off over dating semantics, haha.

[pablosantos]

Thanks again. Yes it was on a dating website like match, and if you read through some of then other stuff you'll have a good idea how she feels, or certainly tells me she feels. I guess its just a matter of taking it date by date and seeing where it goes, despite her being on the website a fair bit. To be fair she doesn't know my intentions, or me know hers, so I guess there's no harm in it?

[WhiteSteve]

Yeah, man, that seems like the best play in this situation. Just see where it takes you. If you like her, maybe I wouldn't have the status talk yet unless she introduces it. You don't want to screw up a potentially good thing by making her think you aren't into her as much as she's into you. At the same time, be careful with her feelings and don't lead her on any further than you're comfortable with. If it comes up again, just make it clear that you like her, enjoy her company, and are interested in continuing to see her, but maybe you should hold off on labels until you're both willing to leave the dating site. She probably still goes on to keep her options open, especially in the case that things don't work out between you two, and that's fine. But you'd definitely be within your rights to say that as long as you two are using this site, you can't be an exclusive couple.

[findingdreamland]

It is odd. Maybe she is testing you? How will you react etc

[pablosantos]

To be fair, it was by text and the comment was "and I know being with your girlfriend is important to you" I ignored it and changed the subject

[findingdreamland]

I don't know the whole story it seems she didn't directly said 'girlfriend thing' so it is still in safe place to me. Well you did the right thing, it is early to talk about those stuff for your case.

[1152pm]

Maybe all her other relationships have moved that quickly. Just talk to her if it makes you uncomfortable.

[teachj]

Run. Run as fast as you can and don't look back! Haha

[Anonymous]

She's a clinger and probably inexperienced.

Trouble ahead, senor.

[Anonymous]

That's creepy