I met a guy on a dating site and we talked for a week nonstop. At the end of the week we met up for a casual date. He was sweet and funny and really nice so I decided to keep talking to him afterwards. I wasn't completely attracted to how he looked and I know that sounds shallow but sometimes physical attraction can help. Anyways, after about another week, we went on a second date. All throughout the date something just felt off. I wasn't feeling a connection and I was kind of liking him less as the date progressed. I know that he likes me a lot and he keeps telling me about how he's told friends and family about me which makes me a bit uncomfortable because I feel like he already sees me as his girlfriend. I just don't think I like him as much as he likes me at the moment and I don't know what to do. Has anyone else been in a position like this? Should I break it off with him or just give it some time? If I should break up with him how would you recommend doing that?
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I think you should break it off. To me, trying to find a way to let someone down gently is like trying to find the Northwest Passage. It doesn't exist. Seeing as though there is no painless way to let someone down, I suggest doing it quickly. Thank him for taking you out. Thank him for his time and effort. Tell him you're just not feeling the connection. Give him chance to speak his peace, but limit that time. At some point, tell him you've got to go and exit stage left. I don't recommend the "I hope we can be friends" option (I wrote a question about it that you might want to take a look at)
Yes, he will be hurt, but there's nothing you can do about it. Ultimately, if you continue going out with this guy and he develops even more feelings, he'll be hurt even worse when you inevitably have to break it off then.
Here's the question I wrote: