To give a little background, this woman and I have gone out a few times and unexpectedly kinda hooked up. We didn't have sex, but there was a physical attraction. She told me after that she had been seeing someone but they were on a break. She still isn't seeing this guy while he gets his old relationship in order. (Ex still lives with him and keeps pushing back her move out date). She said she is intrigued by where it could go and she feels like she should see what happens. On one hand, since that is one of the dumbest things I have ever heard, I feel like I should go the other direction, but at the same time I fell pretty hard for her. She told me she is attracted to me and has feelings for me, but the timing is just really bad. She also said we can continue to hang out but we shouldn't do things a couple would do. If I didn't like this woman so much it would be an easy decision. I feel like I should just say the heck with it and move on, but a lot of my female friends say to stay in the picture because when that falls apart, and it will, that I will be there. I have a certain amount of pride though and waiting to win second place isn't something I'm accustomed to. especially when she is choosing that situation over me. They say it's not, that she is confused and thinks she knows what she's doing, but she will figure it out soon. Looking for some opinions as to what others think. She is in her late 20's and me in early 30's. Should I bail completely or stay in the picture? I screwed up bad allowing myself to fall for someone this fast, but I guess it's not something you can control. Does persistence really pay off in this situation?
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I think you should stay. The fact she has been so honest speaks for itself. If she didn't see some kind of future with you she wouldn't have told you about her situation and just had fun with you until she had her share of fun and left. You're not second place, you're first, she's just getting her shit together before she moves forward.1
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