If a woman sees a man she likes or knows a man that she likes then why doesn't she ask him out? Why do women still wait for the man to do it?
Why don't women approach men and ask them out?
What Girls Said 11
Although I have done it before, sadly, what happens is that *most* men still view it as the girl being more valuable IF he chases her. So if a girl asks them out, purses them, it leads to him not doing any of the work in the relationship and taking her for granted. Since girls know this and see with their own hurts and end up hurt by it, they pretty much stop doing it. Guys might SAY how much they want a girl to ask them out, but when they do, how they treat that girl is a world of difference. If guys didn't do that, and if girls knew they'd still be appreciated and valued by the guy, they'd keep on doing it.0
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The biggest problem has already been mentioned, societal conformity and gender performance roles. Obviously there are exceptions to the rules on both sides, some men are shy and need a little coaxing and some women are more outgoing and will take the initiative if they are interested enough... but those two groups are more exceptions to the rule.
Problem is, men and women spend their whole lives learning how to behave appropriately. Men as rule learn that they are supposed to be go getters, often the ones in charge and in the lead... especially in matters of relationships. Women spend their lives learning through media, through relatives and through social conformity that we are better off being a little more demure so to speak. There is a shift happening, and the world has come a long way in the last 50 years. But, here's something to mull over, look at the rule that women are allowed to propose to men during leap years on the 29th of February.0
Maybe because I'm naturally shy but this actually happened to me the other day. A guy approached me at my work while I was carrying carnations and he smiled widely at me and asked me if the flowers were for him XD I kinda got shy and laughed and said no but I would have loved to ask him out... The thing is that I just feel odd doing it if I don't see the person on a regular basis and such. It's like a cold pick up and I don't know the guy would have to do it because than I'd feel like I was chasing him haha0
Becuz I am too scared and I think the guy usually asks the girl out so tht why I wait for man to do it. But then I reject him becuz I get too scared to say yes so I'm stupid there is no point for me waiting. :/1
i've done it before0
I think we are scared that they might not like us may I ask why are u asking this?
If that's ur case then why dont u ask him out? Instead of asking this?
But other than that I think cause we are scared they might say no or won't like us plus isn't the guy the one that's supposed to ask the girl out0
1. Shy 2. Scared of rejection 3. Society labels women who approach men as "thirsty" I know it's stupid so women try to avoid it. I'm 1&2! The only time I actually speak to guys first is when their friends with my friends or sitting/standing right beside me. Even during those time I get all tongue tied and stutter haha, guys make me go completely flabbergasted,1
Fear of rejection, shy or just flat out chicken like I am0
What Guys Said 7
I knoooow huh? Why do we have to do all the work?1
Because that could potentially involve them being rejected, and we can't have that, now can we?2
Because most women either
Don't have to ask men out (the pretty girls that get approached all the time)
are too terrified of getting rejected. (see the threads on here of 'OMG why wont' he ask me out?' )0
been this way for way too long, tradition, old habits die hard0
tell me about it pisses me off0
Because men stupidly took the role of asking out centuries ago. women were relieved that they never have to risk their confidence and most will never let go of this benefit. I have heard of women (on here only though) asking guys out but I have yet to meet any women in real life that have asked a guy out.0
Because they don't want their fragile little ego's hurt. And they call men pussies when they themselves won't ever ask a man out. Hypocrites!2
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