Ok so I have been casually seeing this girl for about 2 months now. I'm gonna call her R. Her best friend will be D
We went out to a bar one day and she insisted on calling her best friend to come there and sit with us, since she hadn't seen her in forever. Her friend and her BF came to the bar and i met them and they were totally awesome and really nice.
The next day I added both her BF and her on facebook, cause i'd like to keep in contact. I messaged the best friend, and asked her a simple question. I asked her if she used to work with one of my old friends, and that was it. then i had a simple light hearted convo to end it.
Girl R, im seeing, got furious with me and feels i violated her trust. This best friend girl D, has a habbit of flirting with guys girl R talks to, even while girl D has a bf. Girl R said to me "You added her on Facebook and messaged her just like ALL my exes" but I simply explained to her I was asking a very basic question and had a basic conversation
Girl R doesn't give me a chance to make things up. What do I do? I feel this is so stupid and unreasonable. Please dont tell me to leave her, give me an idea on what to say or do
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There are very fine lines when it comes to our significant others and their 'friends'. You didn't do anything wrong BUT you did cross a fine line by choosing to add her on FB and initiate conversation OUTSIDE of your girlfriends presence. The reason this creates such sticky situations is because as innocent as your actions might have been means NOTHING if they get interpreted incorrectly. For example... WHAT IF, D went back to R and gave her the impression you messaged her in an attempt to flirt and get to know her better? Even though its not true is beside the point... the point IS the impression you gave D (with intention or not). Keep in mind some women (like D) can be as conniving as to LIE in order to give R the wrong impression... turning an innocent incident into what you happen to be in the middle of now. So what do you do now? True the damage is done and R already feels like D got one/won up on her with you. Therefore the only thing you can do is offer R another score with you - and ya do it by serving R the goal in D's presence. For instance, compliment R in such a way that in some way (albeit innocently) insults D. Such as saying, "I think R is the prettiest girl I've ever seen" As both girls will interpret that comment as: you think R is prettier than D (score for R! Which she will bask in the glory of given you allowed her the score in front of D!) This all seems petty and childish I know, but such is the head games of love and (sometimes) friendly relationships. It's all tit for tat. Yet the bottom line thing thing to always remember when considering such FINE LINES is ask yourself, "could my actions be taken the wrong way?" and if any chance it could DONT DO IT! If all else fails then ask the girlfriends permission first (just to save your ass)!0
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