We were in a heated argument in the car. Long story short, my bf made me give up drinking a while back (I am not a drinker, only rarely drank on social occasions prior) because he did not drink himself and is firmly against it. So I gave it up because I cared about him. 6 months ago at a birthday party, my cousin asked me to help her finish her last drink since she was completely gone and couldn't drink anymore. Feeling bad for her, and knowing how much it cost, I did, in front of my bf. He lost it.
Fast forward to recently, this story resurfaced b/w us while we were fighting. He was provoking me, mocking me by saying "Oh I was only helping my cousin! Excuses!" He continued to call me names like "fucking stupid idiot" and this is when I lost it, and slapped him across the face. His immediate reaction was to punch me in the face, in which I got a swollen lip and started bleeding profusely. He apologized a million times after that, saying that he hated himself. He even went to the store to get rubbing alcohol and ice for me.
*My bf has called me names in the past, and mentally/emotionally abused me. But he has NEVER physically abused me until this incident.
Question: I should not have slapped him, but did this excuse him to hit me as hard as he did?
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Yes, he is excused. If you don't want to receive force, don't initiate force. It's a simple rule, which unfortunately many women STILL don't understand despite allegedly wanting sexual equality so much! Don't try to excuse yourself with claims of emotional abuse. If the roles were reversed, and you'd been calling him names, and he had initiated force against you, would you expect any of us to lay the blame on you and call you an emotional abuser who had it coming? Come on now.
You lose all creditability whne you violate someone's rights by initiating force against that person. You're lucky you're not a man, because you might have had the police called on you. You should apologize to him.0
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