I am an Asian American guy. I recently moved to Washington, DC area from the South, and am shocked to see more than a half of the Asian girls here dating White guys and refusing to date Asian guys. I always knew Asian girls had White guy fantasy. But, I didn't know it was to this extent!
I started researching more about this and have come across many posts like "Asian girls do whatever White guys want in bed with no question", or "Asian girls always go for White guys first, and if they fail, they settle for Asian guys", "Asian girls always talk shit about Asian guys", etc. My self-esteem is crushed. It's like being told by my own people that I am not good enough because I am Asian and not White.
I strongly prefer Asian girls, but, have dated interracially before (white, latina, and black). But, I never had this "White Trophy" mentality or self-hatred of being Asian.
My questions are:
1. Generally, what percentage of Asian American girls prefer white over Asian? In DC, I think it's about 50% or more.
2. Do Asian American girls think of Asian American guys as "fall back" or "safety" option?
3. I am feeling a little paranoid that Asian girls that I meet will have this "White trophy" mentality. It's like I can't see them the same way anymore. Also, I don't want to date White girls anymore, because I don't want to add to this "White is the best" phenomenon amongst Asians. I don't need a white girlfriend to validate me or feel more "American".
Did seeing all these Asian girls flocking to whites change any dating pattern/behavior for any Asian guys?
Thanks for your honest opinion
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That's interesting you feel this sense of obligation from "your people." It sounds like a big issue you have going on is you feel competitive with white men. You think they are trying to be better than you. Most of these guys just want to date someone they are attracted to. Do you think that's wrong? This competition thing is in your head though I think. Just date HUMANS you're attracted to. Does it really matter if x amount of white guys date Asian girls? Aren't you going to end up with only one anyway? Do you see what I'm saying? You're worried about a competition you've made up on top of the insecurities you have that are being projected to this competition with whites. White guys aren't the issue.1