2-3 years ago I weighed considerably more due to, depression, medications, and addiction. I was very overweight and of course sad. I had a constant embarrassing string of rejections, girls would act like I was gross, and even say ewww behind my back. Often they'd make excuses to not talk to me. I would try to approach girls anyway regardless of the pain. But it got to the point where I disappeared from social life.
Fast forward to now, since then I've lost a whole lot of weight, I went from having to wear XL to medium, I no longer fear or have to deal with buttons on my clothes snapping and popping off, lol. I'd been really depressed for years and am finally recovering. Recently I've had girls tell me I'm cute and handsome, and I've had girls flirt with me. I'm embarrassed to say that I've given odd reactions to both because it all seems weird to me and because the pain of really bad rejection is ingrained in my mind. I can't believe anything positive that I'm told about myself.
The pain of past rejection keeps me from being able to handle the present.
What advice would you give to someone dealing with this?
Have you gone through anything similar yourself?
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I would look at your body as new. A new you. A new chapter. An opportunity for a better, healthier life. I think you should give yourself the benefit of the doubt. I also feel that in order to cope with this change it would be best if you could find someone you trust and confide in about your thoughts and feelings while going through this new change. It's easier to accept things and embrace them when we talk out loud and are able to reflect and analyze. It also helps to understand yourself. Losing unhealthy weight is always an accomplishment and should be looked at with admiration.
When you get compliments try to understand that thats how someone else sees you. Thats how THEY see you and be thankful. This is a new leaf turned my friend!
I haven't gone through anything like this before as far as weight goes, but I can relate to being a "new self". Growing up I was a tomboy, all throughout high school. Now that I'm in my second year of college I've started to embrace my femininity. Now I wear dresses, I curl my hair, I wear heels, I do my makeup. Now that I've grown into my "young woman", people around take a notice and always compliment me. I smile and give thanks but it's still awkward for me and slightly embarrassing. But I have realized that self confidence takes time. It takes time to be comfortable with yourself. :) But eventually you'll get there and won't even notice :)1