Alright so I'm going to start off with a recent event that happened with my mom. She had told me previously that she felt uncomfortable with seeing my girlfriend and I underneath the covers or laying in my bed together in general. My house is small and filled with nothing to do so we have no choice but to hang out in my room and to pass the time we like to cuddle closely under my blanket. That's all we do, no sex, no groping, no french kissing- just two people in love that want to hold each other and gaze into each other's eyes. 2 weeks ago my girlfriend was over and my mom saw exactly that: us cuddled under my blanket sleeping. Like literally eyes closed and just laying there together. She was so outraged that she essentially banned my girlfriend from ever coming over because that made her way too uncomfortable.
My question now is... what the hell? Like, we do NOTHING sexual whether it be in my house or anywhere private so I don't see her problem. We have the doors open and even have the light on when dark because again my mom is too uncomfortable so we try to meet her halfway with that.
Is this overreacting to you or is it justified somehow? Would you trust your teen with a SO in their room with a closed door? What would you let them do- like, are you the "if they're going to have sex at least do it under my roof where it's safe" type, the "don't have sex and you're good" type, or the "3 feet away at all times" type?
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i had a similar situation: my boyfriend and i were in my room watching a movie, not in my bed or anything, just laying on top of the blankets. i had my head on his chest and my hand on his stomach and my dad walked in and flipped out on us. needless to say we don't feel comfortable being together at my house anymore so he never comes over.
stemming from this situation, i asked my parents individually how they felt about us "touching" (not even in a sexual way) while at our house and here were my parents responses:
Dad's- you can't lay next to each other, you can't lean against him, you can't hold hands. i won't allow it.
Mom's- as long as you aren't having sex, i'm fine with whatever you do. he needs to feel comfortable coming over here.
I obviously lean more towards Mom's reasoning haha. I would let my teen and their SO snuggle or cuddle, it wouldn't bother me. Just as long as they weren't like being inappropriate in the living room haha. I definitely wouldn't want them having sex (i believe in waiting till marriage), but i would definitely let them nap together.1