I'm a virgin and the guy who I talk to isn't. I asked him how many girl has he had sexual relations with. He said around 20. He's 22. I think at least 5 is too many. I was jealous that all those other girls have had a piece of him that I don't have. Is there a number? Should there be a number? Am I wrong for feeling a little bit disappointed?
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That's a lot of partners. I'm 30 and I've had maybe half that. I'm a little disappointed by that though, it wasn't by choice lol. Women tend to use me for sex but that's another topic.
I think 3 is THE number. No more than that. His rampant sexuality indicates that he's probably not the type to settle down or take sex or relationships seriously. It's good that he was honest with you but you need to step back and think about what you want out of your relationship. If you want something serious than this guy probably isn't it. He's probably super gorgeous which is why you're talking to him, don't let that be the deciding factor for staying with him.
I read a blog by a guy who said that women ACCEPT the wrong guys by forgiving them just because of "chemistry." They REJECT the right guys because of the lack of chemistry. Careful you don't fall into the former.
I know I feel disappointed when I find out a woman has had a ton of partners (more than 3). It's even harder now that I'm getting older. Honesty, I feel like if a woman isn't settled down by the time she's 25 then there must be something wrong with her. There's SOME reason why a guy isn't with her. She doesn't have to be married but she has to at least have a steady boyfriend of several years. Age is also indicative of a higher number of sexual partners... obviously older women will have had more partners than younger ones which is another reason why it's such a bummer.1
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