I have been seeing this guy for about a month and a half. He is a very sweet guy. We talk everyday and I see him almost every weekend. We don't live very close to each other and we both have crazy work schedules.
About a week ago we had a conversation about what was going on between us and he said that because of his last two relationships ( one he was cheated on and ended in divorce and one he was controlled) that he " had a hard time trusting women and wasn't ready for a relationship yet." But he wanted to get to know each other better because he liked me and thought I was nice and enjoyed spending time with me.
I know that normally I don't want a relationship means I am not interested in you but this guy has me so confused. He still wants to see me and we talk everyday.
Is this a waste of my time and I am being played or does he really need some time and this could end up being something in the future.
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I think he's telling you the truth, but it could turn out to be a waste of time as well. Just take it for what it is. Also, if he's not ready for a relationship yet, then there's no point in tying yourself down to him or be exclusive. It's one thing when you're both progressing toward that and it's early. But a month and a half in and he's said it straight he doesn't see it happening yet. He's looking to keep things casual.
I wouldn't stay exclusive to a guy like that, personally. It'll cause more hurt feelings for you. If he starts to change his mind, then by all means. But right now? You could likely end up feeling used. Just because he's not planning to talk, date, or mess around with anyone right now, doesn't mean he won't change his mind at any second and act on it. That's a large part of his reason for avoiding commitment.1