My boyfriend of two years has been an overprotective asshole and it's gotten worse, I need help. He gets really mad when I hang out with my friends of the same sex and she's leaving for college soon so I won't see her as much as I see him, which is every single day. I have taken breaks lately to see my friend. He calls me bullheaded, and is a hypocrite and won't listen to my side of the story, never will. Can someone please help me, I need real advice?
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There's a difference between being overprotective and controlling. You need to stand up to him, not in an aggressive or confronting way, but by talking to him with confidence and demeanor that sends him a message saying "your opinion isn't going to sway me".
If he continues to go off because he's not getting his way, tell him how his actions make you unhappy, scared, or less attracted to him. If he ever starts to yell, act aggressively or starts being unnecessarily mean, you should immediately walk away from the conversation and tell him you're happy to discuss it but only after he's calmed down. Emotions cloud rational thought and nothing substantial ever comes from a discussion with an over-emotional person.
Do spend time with your friend and don't let his actions make you feel guilty or bad for doing so. Listen to a song that cheers you up, go for a jog, or watch a tv show to reset your emotions and put it behind you, before you go out and have a good time with your friends.0